Parenting is one of the most rewarding and challenging journeys in life. It requires patience, understanding, and effective communication to nurture a healthy relationship with your child. Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers valuable tools and techniques that can significantly enhance your parenting skills. This blog will explore how NLP and Hoʻoponopono can empower you as a parent, helping you build strong connections with your children, and fostering positive growth in their lives.


Understanding NLP


Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a psychological approach that focuses on understanding the language of the mind to achieve specific goals and improve communication. By applying NLP techniques in parenting, you can gain insight into your child’s perspective, enabling you to respond to their needs effectively.


How to Communicate Better


Active Listening


Practice active listening to understand your child’s emotions and concerns better. NLP techniques can help you develop empathy and connect with your child on a deeper level by helping you know your filters and distortions on your reality.


Positive Language


Use positive and empowering language when communicating with your child. NLP teaches the power of words and how they can influence behavior and mindset positively. Milton Model language patterns help with this powerfully. The most influential thought leaders use this type of languaging often.


Establishing and Practicing Rapport


Rapport is key to all successful communication. With your child, building rapport and trust in that relationship is the foundation which all good communication, as well as guidance stems from. Learning rapport involves intentional use of body language, tonality and words. Using NLP-based rapport and practicing it with your child for even just five minutes everyday will create a bond formed on trust that will push you through any ups and downs. 


Hoʻoponopono (Forgiveness)


Learn To Forgive


Your child will always do something that may upset, unnerve, stress you out, etc. And it’s GOOD! They are teaching you a lesson you need in life. Practice forgiveness and be a role model for them to grow into empathetic and understanding adults. 


Never be afraid to say, “Please forgive me”


Own up to your mistakes. Showing your child that you are also human allows them to be confident in themselves and not too critical when they may fall short. Reaching out and asking your child for forgiveness will validate their emotions, but also show them that you are there, and you hear them. 


Use the Hoʻoponopono Forgiveness Process


On my app called “Integrative NLP & Huna” is our free Hoʻoponopono recording. I have written a book all about Hoʻoponopono and how it saved my daughter’s life. Incorporating it into your daily practice will allow you to be level-headed and become a more forgiving person. The clearer you are of your problems, the better parent you will be. You can also explain it to your child and have them listen as well, just as I did with my daughter, Skylar.


Building Confidence and Self-Esteem


Positive Self-Talk


Teach your child the importance of positive self-talk. NLP can help them replace negative thoughts with affirming statements, boosting their self-esteem and confidence.


Modeling Excellence


Encourage your child to identify role models and learn from their positive traits. Show your child your positive traits and lessons, while also showing you are human! Nobody is perfect. NLP techniques involve studying successful individuals and adopting their mindset and behavior to achieve personal growth.




Neuro Linguistic Programming offers a wealth of tools and strategies that can transform your parenting experience. By mastering effective communication, practicing forgiveness often, and nurturing confidence, you can create a supportive and loving environment for your kid’s growth.


Remember, parenting is a continuous journey of learning and adapting. By integrating NLP techniques into your parenting approach, you empower both yourself and your child, fostering a harmonious relationship built on trust, understanding, and mutual respect. Start applying these techniques today, and witness the positive impact they have on your family life. 



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Dr. Matt



Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.


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