Most of us pop out of the womb with a fairly high degree of self-confidence. We haven’t yet started to judge ourselves as smart or dumb, handsome or homely. We haven’t yet built up notions of possible versus impossible, safe versus risky.
And most importantly, we haven’t had time to absorb the judgments, fears, and limitations of the people and culture surrounding us.
Those were the real good ol’ days!
But for most of us, that natural, innocent self-confidence starts to erode pretty quickly. And by the time we hit grade school, the majority of us have bought into a new notion: you can only feel self-confident by earning it.
Ack! I don’t know about you, but to me that sounds like a limiting belief.
Click the link below to read my new Psychology Today blog post on how to achieve self-confidence: