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5 Steps to Make Yourself Miserable for the Holidays

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  Aloha, You may be anticipating the upcoming holidays with the glee of a five-year old or you may feel the grumpiness of a Grinch as the days of “merry and bright” get closer. Whatever you feel and whether you celebrate it or not, as Garrison Keeler says, the Christmas season is “compulsory, like a thunderstorm, and […]

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What’s So Great About Gratitude

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Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for. Zig Ziglar Okay, we’ve long survived Halloween and Thanksgiving Day is nearly here. Folks all over the US are pulling out the good china, dusting off […]

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Home for the Holidays: Your Survival Guide.

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Aloha, Some of you may have parents and family who have supported you 100% throughout your entire evolution. They smiled when you dyed your hair purple in 8th grade, applauded when you dropped out of college to hitchhike through India, yelled “Mazel tov!” when you announced your engagement to the lover who was 30 years […]

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Why You Aren’t Who You’re Supposed to Be

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Aloha, Over the years, I’ve run into students who are frustrated. No matter how hard they try, how many processes they do, how many goals they set, how many barriers they overcome, they just can’t seem to create the life they think they should have. In my recent Huffinton Post article, I address “Why You […]

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How to Forgive Yourself and Move on From the Past

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Aloha, Many of us know that forgiveness is a good thing, right? It frees us from bitterness and anger, two emotions that not only don’t feel good but they can also ruin our physical health and hold us back from all the good we might achieve and experience. I know that many of you have […]

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Rethinking Your Path

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Aloha, You aren’t playing the hand you were dealt; you are playing the hand you picked. No one dealt the hand. You picked the cards right down to the suit. Your job is to figure out why you picked this hand, what are you meant to learn, and who you are meant to be. I teach a […]

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Feeling Stuck? How to Tell if NLP is Really Working

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“It is paradoxical, yet true, to say, that the more we know, the more ignorant we become in the absolute sense, for it is only through enlightenment that we become conscious of our limitations.” – Nikola Tesla Every once in a while, one of my students (sometimes even an advanced student) will approach me and […]

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The Worst Advice We’ve Ever Heard About Forgiveness

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Aloha, I’ve spent a good deal of my career working with and teaching forgiveness, specifically ho’oponopono, the ancient forgiveness practice of the Hawaiian Islands. In fact, I wrote my PhD dissertation on it. So I’ve got some expertise in this area, and I’ve noticed that there’s some pretty rotten advice out there on forgiveness. Check […]

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Dispelling Myths About NLP

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“The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie, deliberate, contrived and dishonest, but the myth, persistent, persuasive and unrealistic.” – John F. Kennedy All through my career, I’ve had to respond to a variety of myths and misconceptions about Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). NLP has been called a pseudo-science, a cult, even […]

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Depression is a Disease of Civilization: Stephen Ilardi at TEDxEmory

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Aloha, Did you know that nearly 1/4 of Americans will experience depression by the age of 75? Research shows that depression is on the rise. In fact, within the past 20 years, the use of antidepressants have gone up by over 300%. Wow. If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know that […]