How to Forgive Yourself and Move on From the Past


Aloha, Many of us know that forgiveness is a good thing, right? It frees us from bitterness and anger, two emotions that not only don’t feel good but they can also ruin our physical health and hold us back from all the good we might achieve and experience. I know that many of you have […]


Rethinking Your Path


Aloha, You aren’t playing the hand you were dealt; you are playing the hand you picked. No one dealt the hand. You picked the cards right down to the suit. Your job is to figure out why you picked this hand, what are you meant to learn, and who you are meant to be. I teach a […]


Feeling Stuck? How to Tell if NLP is Really Working


“It is paradoxical, yet true, to say, that the more we know, the more ignorant we become in the absolute sense, for it is only through enlightenment that we become conscious of our limitations.” – Nikola Tesla Every once in a while, one of my students (sometimes even an advanced student) will approach me and […]


The Worst Advice We’ve Ever Heard About Forgiveness

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Aloha, I’ve spent a good deal of my career working with and teaching forgiveness, specifically ho’oponopono, the ancient forgiveness practice of the Hawaiian Islands. In fact, I wrote my PhD dissertation on it. So I’ve got some expertise in this area, and I’ve noticed that there’s some pretty rotten advice out there on forgiveness. Check […]


Dispelling Myths About NLP

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“The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie, deliberate, contrived and dishonest, but the myth, persistent, persuasive and unrealistic.” – John F. Kennedy All through my career, I’ve had to respond to a variety of myths and misconceptions about Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). NLP has been called a pseudo-science, a cult, even […]


Depression is a Disease of Civilization: Stephen Ilardi at TEDxEmory


Aloha, Did you know that nearly 1/4 of Americans will experience depression by the age of 75? Research shows that depression is on the rise. In fact, within the past 20 years, the use of antidepressants have gone up by over 300%. Wow. If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know that […]


The Brains of Successful vs. Unsuccessful People Actually Look Very Different

The Brains of Successful vs. Unsuccessful People Actually Look Very Different

Aloha, Do you know the difference in habits, beliefs and strategies between successful vs. unsuccessful people? (I’ve written about this concept previously when I talked about eliminating the word ‘excuse’ out of your vocabulary.) According to Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, there are two basic categories that peoples’ behavioral traits tend to fall into: fixed and […]


Emotional Openness VS. Rationality and Logic: – A CEO’s Perspective

Emotional Openness vs. Rationality and Logic: – A CEO’s Perspective

Aloha, Do you know what the best advice is to new CEO’s? According to Eric Schmidt, the Chairman and CEO of Google, his best advice to new CEO’s is to “have a coach.” Check out this blog I just read on Psychology Today. It’s a well-research article that details why CEO’s need coaching. Whether you’re […]


Boost Confidence with Hypnosis and NLP


Aloha, Most of us pop out of the womb with a fairly high degree of self-confidence. We haven’t yet started to judge ourselves as smart or dumb, handsome or homely. We haven’t yet built up notions of possible versus impossible, safe versus risky. And most importantly, we haven’t had time to absorb the judgments, fears, […]


The Science of Persuasion: How to Get People to Agree With What You Say

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Aloha, I just finished reading this thought-provoking article on persuasion. It talks about how metaphors, similes and analogies are key in bringing others into your model of the world. Before reading it, I recommend checking out the video below. For those of you who have attended our NLP Trainings, you might recognize the Selective Attention […]