Dr Matt James http://www.drmatt.com NLP Training & Huna Training Blog Tue, 15 Apr 2014 14:45:27 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.8.3 Dealing with Haters? How to Keep Calm (from NLP and Huna) http://www.drmatt.com/2014/04/15/manage-anger-nlp/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=manage-anger-nlp http://www.drmatt.com/2014/04/15/manage-anger-nlp/#comments Tue, 15 Apr 2014 14:45:27 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2518 Picture of man screaming“A complainer is like a Death Eater because there’s a suction of negative energy. You can catch a great attitude from great people.” -Barbara Corcoran

Recently, I’ve been asked by my students to teach NLP techniques on how to deal with negative people. For those of us on a path to expand and realize our full potential, nasty, negative people are bound to show up to help us with the lessons we need to learn. The Dalai Lama once called these people “special friends” because they offer us so much opportunity to learn about ourselves and evolve!

But when you’re face to face with a true hater, someone who has decided that you or something you believe in needs to be cut to shreds, chewed up and spit out – well, your first thought is rarely, “Yippee! Another character-building opportunity!” No matter how much work you have done on yourself, no matter how much time you’ve spent in meditation or in therapy, no matter how pono or happy you were feeling the moment before, our hackles are wired to shoot up when faced with someone who is angry and on the attack.

I ran into this recently while on the board of an organization that I value highly. The organization was is severe financial difficulty and, because of my position, I was the one who had to be the bearer of bad tidings: the organization had to shut down. You know that old phrase, “Don’t shoot the messenger?” Well, I was the messenger and while many people were supportive, others had their AK47’s out and were ready to form a firing squad! Even though I’ve been meditating since I was five, trained in NLP techniques since thirteen, and have a daily ho’ponopono practice, I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that the negative energy of these people didn’t affect me at times.

So how to stay calm, both in the moment a hater attacks and afterward, so you can respond in a way that serves you?

To be prepared even before being confronted with a hater, the first step is to recognize that perception is projection. Yes, there definitely are negative people in the world who will harm others when given an opportunity. But how you perceive someone and how you react to them will be based on either your “stuff,” (a psychological term for emotional baggage), or your clarity. The more you have cleared old negative emotions of fear, anger, sadness, hurt and guilt, the clearer and more centered you will be when the situation hits.

How to identify your unresolved stuff? Notice what triggers you and where your reaction is stronger than it should be given the situation. Maybe you feel very anxious around someone who has a particular tone of voice or type of body language. Maybe you feel anger when someone questions your motives or your integrity. Maybe you feel guilty and ashamed when someone criticizes your competency. Your negative hot buttons will lead you to your baggage.

We’ve talked about different ways to clear old baggage in many of these blogs. Forgiveness practices like ho’oponopono are invaluable for releasing old wounds. There are several NLP techniques such as Mental Emotional Release® (MER®) that are very effective for identifying and releasing old negative emotions. Use whatever tools you have in your toolkit – or get help – to release the negative emotions that no longer serve you.

Next, when a specific situation arises, try some reframing. Reframing simply means to be willing to see something in a different way. For example, if you get a seemingly dirty look from someone, you might initially think, “That person hates me!” Possible reframes? “He must be having a bad day.” “She doesn’t know me but if he did, she’d love me!”  “He’s probably having a gas attack!”

My students sometimes protest, “But that reframe isn’t true!” Really? How do you know? Are you positive your original interpretation was correct? Even if it was, does thinking about it that way serve you?

In my situation with the organization I mentioned, I used a few reframes or different ways to think about it: “Who better than me to lead this process? Though I don’t like what the haters are saying, I’m confident and know who I am. I can let their criticisms slide off my back. I know their reactions are coming from fear and confusion.”

In the heat of the situation with a hater, take a deep breath. Listen to what is being said without absorbing the energy of it. If you feel that you’ve cleared whatever old baggage you had around the situation and you have no extra charge on it, you’re in great position to state your truth.

Stating your truth is not about justifying or defending or arguing. It doesn’t further inflame a situation. It’s often a calm, simple statement of “that’s you and this is me.” Your truth might sound something like, “I hear what you’re saying and respect your right to have that point of view. I happen to disagree and have a different point of view.”

For example, in my case, I was able to listen to complaints, take a deep breath and say, “I understand your concern and am sorry that our organization came to this. However, I’m confident that I did the best I could — and as well as anyone could have done — given the circumstances.”

But what if none of this works for you?  What if you have a hater in your life who is determined to make your life miserable?

Walk away. Learn what lessons you can from that person, then let them move out of your life. As Oscar Wilde said, “Some people cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go.”

Mahalo!
Matt

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NLP and Reframing Webinar: How to be Persuasive in Business http://www.drmatt.com/2014/03/24/nlp-webinar-reframing/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=nlp-webinar-reframing http://www.drmatt.com/2014/03/24/nlp-webinar-reframing/#respond Tue, 25 Mar 2014 05:54:04 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2501 Headshot of Dr. Matt that says "Dr. Matt James - NLP and Reframing: How to be Persuasive in BusinessAloha,

Are you wondering how you can change peoples’ minds in a business setting?

Reframing is a NLP term that’s used to describe shifting one’s thoughts and experiences on reality. It’s a technique that allows you to interpret “negative” events in a positive way.

On 4/16/14 at 7:00pm PDT we will teach you the art of NLP reframing. This series of ‘Empowerment Time with Dr. Matt’ is free and includes the following:

• How to use NLP to reframe a negative experience
• How to rethink negative events that occurred in your past
• How to help other people to see their problems in a new light
• A live Q&A where Dr. Matt answers your questions
• How to get rid of objections in sales/business/other areas of life

Usually our NLP Practitioner Trainings teach you how to do reframing in the context of therapy. However, this webinar takes a new spin on things. Instead, we’ll teach you how to use reframing from a business perspective. You’ll learn how to use NLP to reframe with your clients, coworkers, boss, and everybody you do business with!

Click the link below to RSVP:

https://attendee.gotowebinar.com/register/2500922017893172226

See you there!

Mahalo,
Dr. Matt

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2 More Things that Great Coaches and Therapists Wish You Knew http://www.drmatt.com/2014/03/10/2-more-things-that-great-coaches-and-therapists-wish-you-knew/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=2-more-things-that-great-coaches-and-therapists-wish-you-knew http://www.drmatt.com/2014/03/10/2-more-things-that-great-coaches-and-therapists-wish-you-knew/#comments Tue, 11 Mar 2014 00:29:44 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2493 Free Will“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the one who’ll decide where you’ll go. Oh the places you’ll go.”  Dr. Seuss

Aloha,

In a recent blog, I talked about a few basic concepts that, if you apply them to your life, you might be able to fire your therapist! At the very least, you’ll make much more positive progress in whatever personal growth you desire. Those concepts I discussed last time were: 1) Have respect for other people’s reality,  2) Remember that people are not their behaviors, and 3) Recognize that everyone is doing the best they can based on their current resources.

Those concepts are just three of the presuppositions at the basis of the Neuro Linguistic-Programming (NLP) I teach. NLP was developed in the 1970’s by people who studied the very best practices of the very best therapists. NLP’s presuppositions are a part of those best practices.

Does it make sense that if you adopted the basic concepts of great therapists – the people who are highly skilled and consistently effective at helping others create meaningful and lasting change – you could become more effective in making the personal changes you wish to make?

Makes sense to me too. So I’d like to offer you a few more of the basics that, if understood and applied, can help you dissolve and resolve many of the issues in your life – with or without therapy:

#1 The map is not the territory. The words we use are not the event or item they represent. In other words, the way we see reality is not reality itself. It is merely our internal representation or map, which is never completely accurate. And when we respond in life, we’re not responding to something “real.” We’re responding to that internal map and all of its inaccuracies.

We can get a sense of our internal map by the language we use. As Mark Twain once said, “A man’s character may be learned from the adjectives which he habitually uses in conversation.” The adjectives we use say nothing about reality itself but they say a heck of a lot about how we perceive – and therefore, respond – to it.

For example, what if your internal map describes life as “hard” and earning a living as a “grind,” that it’s a “dog eat dog world” where you have to “fight to survive”? Based on that map, how would you navigate life? Odds are that you would major in struggle and minor in distrust. Because life is “so difficult,” you may not allow yourself to succeed and you certainly wouldn’t allow yourself to enjoy the journey.

In NLP, we specifically address this internal representation, this map. The object is not to have it become “more realistic.” Rather it’s to recodify your internal representation to one that gets you where you want to go. Imagine having an internal map that says: “Life supports me. Earning a living is fun and fulfilling. People are basically good and helpful. It’s natural to prosper and thrive.”  What if you truly experienced the world that way? How would you behave and feel?

Some of you may be saying, “But Matt, that isn’t realistic.” Really? According to whom? Have you ever wondered why so many children of great actors, artists or writers also become successful in those careers? They undoubtedly work hard to make it. But, unlike most people, these kids start from an internal reality that says, “Yeah. I can do this. Look at all these people around me who have done it. No big deal.”

The power of knowing that “your map is not the territory” is that it can free you to choose another map, one that supports you rather than sabotaging you.

#2 You are in charge of your mind and therefore your results. We all are.

Your current results are not because of your lonely childhood or the parents who never understood you. Your current results are not based on the girlfriend who betrayed you or the friend who died. Your current results are not due to your medical condition or your lack of education.

Your current results are due to you and the decisions you have made in response to life’s “stuff” (“stuff” is a highly sophisticated psychological term I learned during my PhD program).

You and your unconscious mind have made a lot of decisions through the years, many of them before the age of 7. It is these decisions that produce your current results. The good news is that now you can use that same mind to make different decisions and produce different results.

An example: You’re 5 years old. If you stare at your grandmother when she’s yelling at you, she gets ticked off and slaps you thinking you’re being defiant. Your decision: “When someone is angry, look away. Don’t make eye contact. If possible, leave the room.”

For a 5-year-old, that might have been a good decision. As a 40-year-old, probably not. Not making eye contact and leaving the room at any sign of conflict can ruin your career and undermine your relationships. As a 40-year-old, you can change that reaction (and the poor results it brings) by working with your unconscious mind to install a new decision, one that is more empowering, into your unconscious mind.

But here’s the deal: It’s not about Grandma. Grandma did not force you to make the decision you made and Grandma certainly is not in control of you now – unless you choose to allow her to be. Time to release Grandma and reclaim your life.

Try these concepts out with the 3 I shared last time. When you try them on, do they make the changes you’re working on seem easier? More possible?

I’ll end with another favorite Dr. Seuss quote:

“It doesn’t matter what it is. What matters is what it will become.”

Mahalo!
Dr. Matt

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New Webinar: How to Deal with Negativity in Life Using NLP and Huna http://www.drmatt.com/2014/02/27/new-webinar-how-to-deal-with-negativity-in-life-using-nlp-and-huna/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=new-webinar-how-to-deal-with-negativity-in-life-using-nlp-and-huna http://www.drmatt.com/2014/02/27/new-webinar-how-to-deal-with-negativity-in-life-using-nlp-and-huna/#comments Thu, 27 Feb 2014 21:00:53 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2481 Aloha,

When was the last time you experienced negativity in life? Because you can be in a boring routine, or even having a fantastic day, and still have to face negativity.

This series of Empowerment Time with Dr. Matt is free and includes the following:

• How to use NLP to reframe a negative experience
• How to appreciate both the good and the bad
• How to maintain your focus in the face of adversity
• A live Q&A where Dr. Matt will answer your questions
• A free Huna gift to help you deal with future negativity

Promotional items for this webinar have expired. Please sign up for our newsletter to get the latest updates on our webinars, newsletters and free gifts!

Mahalo,
Matt

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3 Things that Great Coaches and Therapists Wish You Knew http://www.drmatt.com/2014/02/19/3-things-that-great-therapists-wish-you-knew/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=3-things-that-great-therapists-wish-you-knew http://www.drmatt.com/2014/02/19/3-things-that-great-therapists-wish-you-knew/#comments Thu, 20 Feb 2014 04:22:55 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2475 Photo: Ryan Tansey

Photo: Ryan Tansey

“I think if I took therapy, the doctor would quit. He’d just pick up the couch and walk out of the room.” -Don Rickles

Okay, I’m guessing that Don Rickles is right – a client like him would encourage many psychologists and psychiatrists to take up plumbing for a living! Most clients aren’t like that. But too many clients have misconceptions about therapy that keep their sessions less productive than they could be.

Therapists spend countless hours learning their profession. They’re there to help people. Yet the one who has the most impact on the success of a therapy – the client – is rarely coached on their part in their own healing and progress. Coming from our “give-me-a-pill-and-make-it-go-away-now” culture, we often walk into our therapist’s office, hand him or her our messy bag of problems and issues, then wait for them to fix it. Oh, we know we’ll have to answer some questions and dig into our personal muck a bit. But in general, we’re expecting the person with those credentials on the wall to do all the heavy lifting.

But great therapists know that if their clients knew certain concepts about life and themselves, not only would they achieve the results they wanted in therapy, they would have the tools to handle more of their issues without a therapist’s services.

In the Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) I teach, we talk about several presuppositions that make therapy sessions and NLP techniques powerful and effective. When a client doesn’t understand or won’t accept these concepts, we know that, no matter what techniques we use or how much time we spend, the therapy will be less impactful than it otherwise could have been. And when the session is done, odds are that the client will continue to create unnecessary obstacles and difficulties on their journey.

Here are a few of the basics that, if understood and applied, can help you dissolve and resolve many of the issues in your life – with or without therapy:

#1 Respect for other people’s reality. Rather than imposing our model of the world on others, honoring what others think and feel as valid and real for them goes a long way to keep communication clear.

Take the example of a teenager who thinks her life is over because she can’t get the latest electronic device to keep up with the “popular kids” at school. As her parent, you may not agree that the latest smartphone is a life-or-death issue. But though the pressure she feels may not be “real” or significant to you, it is to her. You can respect her point of view (without adopting it yourself) by saying, “I understand that you feel stressed about this and I want to help. I don’t feel good about spending that kind of money on this. But I’m open to ideas about how you could earn it. And I’d also like to understand why it’s important to you and what alternatives there might be to help you feel better.”

Okay, anyone with a teenage child knows that this is not exactly how the conversation would go! But can you see the difference it might make to the other person when you acknowledge their truth? Rather than cutting off communication, when you honor another person’s point of view, you open up the channels and deepen the relationship.  Whether it’s your child, a co-worker, spouse, friend or customer, everyone appreciates being listened to with respect.

#2 People are not their behaviors. You are not defined by what you do or have done – and neither are others. We can respect the person (or ourselves) while still disliking a behavior and desiring to change it.

We tend to default to labels. Someone who has cheated becomes a cheater. A person who failed to follow through is unreliable. That guy who just cut you off in traffic is a jerk! Labelling others by their behaviors has many ramifications. For one, it leaves us stuck and gives us less ability to grow and evolve. Think about it: Can a jerk be turned into a non-jerk? Probably not. But can someone who cuts others off in traffic learn to drive a bit slower and use her blinker? Much more likely.

This same concept can be applied to ourselves. Say that you have a history of paying your bills late or over-drawing your checking account. If you label yourself as “bad with money,” it feels like an uphill battle. You’ve defined and judged yourself with a label and now need to change who you are. But what if you merely look at changing the specific behaviors and figuring out the steps you need to take? Doesn’t that feel more possible and empowering?

#3 Everyone is doing the best they can based on their current resources. We’re all doing the best we can based on our current knowledge, understanding, and maturity level.

A 2-year old operates based on his capabilities and his experience of the world. For example, he gives his peanut butter sandwich to the dog and smears Mom’s lipstick all over the living room wall. All the decisions he makes at age 2 have a positive intent behind them (The dog looked hungry. The lipstick was pretty on the wall). Can he make better decisions? Nope. Not until he gains more understanding.

We are just like that 2-year old. If you just made a total mess of your most recent relationship, you were really doing the best you could, based on your knowledge, experience and resources at the time. Were you perfect? Absolutely not. Could you do better in the future? Absolutely, especially if you absorb the lessons from the experience and don’t waste time beating yourself up about it.

Test these concepts out. Apply them to yourself and others. You’ll find that positive change is not as difficult as it might have seemed –and your therapist will thank you!

Mahalo!
Dr. Matt

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Here’s a Quick Way to Ditch Emotional Baggage http://www.drmatt.com/2014/02/18/heres-a-quick-way-to-ditch-emotional-baggage/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=heres-a-quick-way-to-ditch-emotional-baggage http://www.drmatt.com/2014/02/18/heres-a-quick-way-to-ditch-emotional-baggage/#respond Tue, 18 Feb 2014 19:50:53 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2464 Genetic ResearchAloha,

Do you know how to release trauma stored in your body (even if it was there before you were born)?

We all know that we inherit our parents’ noses, eye color, and flat feet through our genes. And psychologists have long acknowledged that even some of our personality characteristics are inherited as well. For example, a 2012 study of 800 sets of twins reported that genes play a greater role than home environment and surroundings in shaping key character traits such as self-control, decision making or sociability.

But what does that have to do with emotional baggage?

Read my new Psychology Today blog to find out.

Mahalo!
Dr. Matt

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How My Wife Got Me to Lose 85 Pounds http://www.drmatt.com/2014/02/12/how-my-wife-got-me-to-lose-85-pounds/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-my-wife-got-me-to-lose-85-pounds http://www.drmatt.com/2014/02/12/how-my-wife-got-me-to-lose-85-pounds/#respond Thu, 13 Feb 2014 03:42:57 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2445 Aloha,

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day I want to relay a story that reminds me of the strong and loving relationship I have with my wife, Sumi.

As you might know if you’ve been reading my blogs for some time, I used to be 85 pounds heavier than I am today.

During the years of Big Matt, I tried a kazillion diets and exercise plans. They would work for a time and I’d lose a few pounds, only to be seduced by a killer apple pie à la mode or a five-course Italian meal.

But there was one particular turning point for me that happened while I was teaching a NLP Training. This was a moment in time when my wife said something to me I would never forget. Click this link to read about my moment of no retreat in my recent Huffington Post blog.

Mahalo!
Dr. Matt

 

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SSDD – Same “Stuff,” Different Day http://www.drmatt.com/2014/02/06/ssdd-same-stuff-different-day/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=ssdd-same-stuff-different-day http://www.drmatt.com/2014/02/06/ssdd-same-stuff-different-day/#comments Thu, 06 Feb 2014 16:00:52 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2433 Photo: Rennett Stowe

Photo: Rennett Stowe

I get it! Sometimes we are just running the motions. Meaning, you wake up, you get the kids ready for school, you start your work, eat lunch, pick up the kids from school, go home, cook & clean, pass out, and start all over. Or even worse, an issue pops up in the middle of the routine! I’ve been there. I have experienced this. To be transparent, no matter how far down the “path” you get, you can still have a less than spectacular day.

There is hope, and there are plenty things you can do. In fact, some of the things you can do are easy! They may not solve the problem, and… you have to put out the fire before you can concentrate on fire prevention. So let’s start with putting it out.

Death by Routine

First, figure out what is dragging you down. Is it the constant pattern or the routine itself? For example, one of my students emailed me and asked what they should do about the Monday morning desire for it to be Friday! He went on to explain how every day just seems the same and that his life was beginning to look like a series of predictable events that were all mind-numbingly boring!

Solution:

This simple way out of this one is to create breaks in the routine that you have never done before.

Since the student who emailed me owns a motorcycle, I suggested he go out for a 10-minute ride on his work break. Don’t do it so much that it becomes a routine. Just do it once to break things up. During the “bike break” I had him think of other quick, easy things that he could do and he came up with an entire list of random fun breaks.

That poured into the weekend and he suddenly found himself having fun again. He started picking up habits that were helping him enjoy Monday!

Now, of course there is a deeper issue. Maybe it’s finding your life’s purpose, or maybe it’s connecting with a better job or a better partner. I do realize that. However, most teachers will tell you to focus on the amazing career that you want instead of dealing with the immediate issue, which in this case was boredom.

Instead, I suggest dealing with the immediate issue, and then focus on your dream. If you are ready to read about purpose, click here and read this blog post.

Death by Negativity

Ok, so maybe I’m using the word “death” a little much. Please forgive me. My point is to illustrate that you can be in a boring routine, or even having a fantastic day, and you still have to face negativity.

Negativity is dealing with another’s baggage. Have you ever seen a post on Facebook or maybe a news clip that brought up your own personal baggage? This occurs when you are going through your life and all of a sudden you are facing an issue that is more than you expected. Sometimes these are small annoyances, and other times they are life-changing experiences that you have to deal with. This happens to all of us including me.

For my long-term blog followers, you know how transparent I can be and I love to share. My wife does not enjoy this as much as I do, and we appreciate our different approaches to this concept.

Anyway, long story short: I am the president of the board for Hualalai Academy. This is the school my children went to. This is a wonderful school, and in July 2013 the new Head of School and I started working together. We both came into our jobs realizing that we had a massive challenge, which was the financial situation of the school. With my business background and his 12 years of experience running a major school we both thought that we could handle it.

Our business plan was solid and we got going. However, by November of last year things began to look bleak. Enrollment was not going up and the banks and investors were clearly not willing assist the school. We exhausted all avenues and were unable to secure funding to turn the school around. We both worked long and hard to make it possible, but the damage had already been done before we got there.

As the president of the board I had to deliver the news. As you can probably imagine, this was not easy. The parents and teachers who had gotten close to us thanked me and our Head of School for all the hard work. They knew we had done everything. And, there were a few that did not see it that way. In many stories, people want to know who the “bad guy” is.  For some people in life, finding someone to blame makes them feel better. It is easier to blame than to look in the mirror and/or step up to do something. For those people, I became the bad guy and it got intense.

Personally, I am fine with the “heat” from a situation like this. I have been doing public trainings for years and have received a bunch of different perspectives on what I teach. (I teach hypnosis, NLP and Huna, so trust me, I hear some “interesting” perspectives.) However, my kids became a target of some emails and interactions. To me this is unacceptable.

Now, I can go home and do Ho`oponopono. I can release negative emotions. I have the tools to enforce my boundaries in a positive way. However, the level of intensity of any situation should not be directed toward kids. That is my belief and I am good with it.

After much discussion and contemplation, my wife and I decided to put our kids in a different school. Rather than going through all the details, I will just say that, based on what they were experiencing, they are both happy and relieved.

My personal reason for doing this was simple. Since I am the head of the board I need to focus on shutting down the school and working for the faculty and staff. I need to be on my best “game” right now because it will take a lot of effort to salvage what we can. I need to be there for the Head of School because he needs board support to finish out the year. And, knowing who I am, if my kids remained in the school I would not be able to do that because of my love and concern for them.

This was a big fire to put out for me as much as it was for the two of them. My wife and I needed to feel comfortable. All four of us are now happy and focused. I can get back on track with the school and what it needs to do.

I’ve noticed that many people react to negativity like this by putting even more negativity out there. Yelling at someone because they’re yelling at you may not necessarily fix the problem. Are there times to fight fire with fire? Yes! Keeping that in mind, there are 3 things you need to do to create change:

Solution

  1. Release your baggage. Do Ho’oponopono, or any release technique that helps. In fact, as a special gift for you, here is a link where you can download and listen to my Ho’oponopono MP3 for free. I only ask that, when you’re finished, set your goal as to what you want instead. Setting a goal while you are angry is crazy! You don’t want to carry the baggage because it does you no good. There is no benefit. Do the release work, and then set your goal so it’s SMART.
  2. Take action. Sorry folks, you have to take action. Many take action first (e.g. fight fire with fire). This doesn’t always work. If you are fighting negativity with negativity, you are at risk for becoming the thing you most despise. Taking action means doing it from your heart and with a positive intention and goal.
  3. Maintain your focus. Once you are on the path and rolling, make sure you focus on the positive things. For example, my kids are making new friends and having new experiences. Is moving to a new school tough? Yes, and what are the good things? Also, now I am focusing on what we can do for the school and what positive things will come from it closing. For example, we’re working with other great schools to come in and use the campus.

What to do?

Handle the immediate issue. Put the fire out first. Then, once you have done that, peel the onion back and see what is next. Every day is not going to be perfect, but you can make it perfect by how you handle the situations. It may not always be easy, but in the end you will feel good about your actions.

Mahalo,
Dr. Matt

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At Last, Scientists Discover Molecular Changes in the Body After Meditating http://www.drmatt.com/2014/01/09/at-last-scientists-discover-molecular-changes-in-the-body-after-meditating/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=at-last-scientists-discover-molecular-changes-in-the-body-after-meditating http://www.drmatt.com/2014/01/09/at-last-scientists-discover-molecular-changes-in-the-body-after-meditating/#comments Thu, 09 Jan 2014 15:17:11 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2388 Photo: net_efekt

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Aloha,

Earlier this week I posted an article about a study suggesting that ‘memories’ can pass generationally. While we’re on the topic of your mind, I came across another new study by Psychoneuroendocrinology that discovered specific molecular changes in the body after meditating. Here is a link to the summary explaining that: “mindfulness meditation can alter neural, behavioral and biochemical processes.”

In this study, researchers compared two different groups. One group had experienced meditators whose role was to meditate throughout the day. The other group had untrained subjects whose role was to enjoy a day of leisure, non-meditative activities.

After 8 hours, researchers compared the two groups. They found that the group of meditators showed a range of genetic and molecular differences (including reduced levels of pro-inflammatory genes, which correlates with faster recovery from stressful situations)!

“To the best of our knowledge, this is the first paper that shows rapid alterations in gene expression within subjects associated with mindfulness meditation practice,” says Dr. Richard J. Davidson, the study author and founder of the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds.

Here is a link to an article via tunedbody.com, which explains the study in greater detail.

Thank you to all the researchers involved in this study! As the article states, training your mind can absolutely have positive health effects. That’s why our NLP Trainings focus on how your thoughts, feelings and actions lead to your results!

Mahalo,
Dr. Matt

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