Dr Matt James http://www.drmatt.com NLP Training & Huna Training Blog Wed, 02 Sep 2015 16:34:31 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.7 Turning Fear Into Power http://www.drmatt.com/2015/09/01/turning-fear-into-power/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=turning-fear-into-power http://www.drmatt.com/2015/09/01/turning-fear-into-power/#respond Tue, 01 Sep 2015 22:01:27 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=3044 Aloha,sky-sunset-clouds-sun

I remember checking out that book, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!, back in the ‘80’s. And while I applaud anyone whose intention is to help others break through barriers to a more fulfilling life, I question whether that’s really the best way to deal with fear. Here’s my thinking:

It’s true that most of our barriers are self-imposed and many of our fears are “False Evidence Appearing Real.” But to me, staying in fear as you try to do what you’re afraid of is like riding the waves on a skate board. It might kinda work — but you’re definitely surfing at a disadvantage!

In my newest Huffington Post article, Turning Fear Into Power, I talk about the difference between appropriate fear and inappropriate or unwanted fearand how a Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique called Mental Emotional Release (MER) can release persistent or unwarranted fear.

Think about it: Fear isn’t a rational, conscious process, so if we want to be rid of unwarranted fear, the place where the release needs to happen is in the unconscious mind.

To read more from my Huffington Post article, click here:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matthew-b-james-phd/turning-fear-into-power_b_8068078.html

May you be fearless!
Mahalo—

Dr.Matt.

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A Better Reason to Be Fit http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/24/a-better-reason-to-be-fit/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=a-better-reason-to-be-fit http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/24/a-better-reason-to-be-fit/#respond Mon, 24 Aug 2015 13:45:28 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=3038 2015-08-14-1439595279-8246779-sports768430_1280Aloha,

Here’s a question for you: Why do you exercise? Why do you try to stay in shape?

(And if you don’t exercise and hate everything about keeping fit, keep reading. You just may change your attitude.)

The fitness world seems to think that killer abs and skinny thighs should be motivation enough to put in hours of grinding away at the gym (by the way, I don’t know who came up with the idea of “the gap,” but it’s an concept that needs to be retired immediately). Your doctor may think that strengthening your heart, lowering cholesterol or preventing diabetes is plenty of reason to spend hours of your precious time sweating away at activities you hate. That wedding coming up or your high school reunion? Surely that’s strong enough motivation to stick to that healthy diet and shed some pounds, right?

I’m not feelin’ it.

Most of us have come to accept some form of the mind-body-spirit connection. Yet in our activities, we treat the three as separate units. We work out and jog for the body. We study for the mind and read self-help books or go to seminars for psychological well-being. We pray or meditate for the spiritual side of us.

We’ve set up false silos within a system that has no separation.

In my newest Huffington Post article “A Better Reason to Be Fit“, I show you through both experience and research that exercising is as much about your emotional/mental/spiritual health as your physical health. The technical reasons for the mental/emotional benefits of exercise may be complicated. But the bottom line is not: Exercise makes you feel better emotionally and perform better mentally almost instantly. You probably know this from your own experience.

To read more, click this link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matthew-b-james-phd/a-better-reason-to-be-fit_b_7990700.html 

To your TOTAL empowerment!

Mahalo,
Dr. Matt

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Jumpstart Your Spiritual Awakening: CLASS Replay & Special Offer http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/20/jumpstart-replay-special-offer/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=jumpstart-replay-special-offer http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/20/jumpstart-replay-special-offer/#respond Thu, 20 Aug 2015 23:06:45 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=3032 woman-570883_1280Aloha,

Did you miss my “Jumpstart Your Spiritual Awakening with NLP and Huna” interview I did for the Conscious Life Awakened Speaker Series?

No worries, you can Access the replay here!

Here are some items we covered in the call:

– When and why you DON’T want to do affirmations
– What NLP and Huna are and how they can benefit you
– What reframing is and how you can benefit from it
– What the most important kind of rapport is and how you can cultivate it
– How you can quickly tap into “the flow” with hakalau (it’s amazingly simple to do and you can feel yourself shift as you do it)

And much much more!

Also here’s a snippet from CLASS Vicki Howie’s email that went out to her listeners.
Check it out…there is a special offer that we’re sharing with you!

And as usual, at the end of the call, Matt offered a CLASS special for those of us who wish to go deeper.

As someone who has invested thousands of dollars in live training with Matt and the Empowerment Partnership (from which the downloadable programs were created), I can say firsthand that ALL of their programs are top notch.

And for this reason, their courses are rarely on sale. This is why I am so proud to announce that Dr. Matt’s Special CLASS Offer “Transform Your Life Now with the Power of NLP & Huna” is 78% off — with 114 awesome MP3s priced at only $97 (less than a dollar each!!!).

You can check it all out here.

And if you grab it by this Sunday (midnight), you’ll also get a Bonus Video Program from Dr. Matt, “How to Reboot Your Brain.” 

Here’s the link to the replay: http://www.awakenwithclass.com/matt-james/
Here’s the link to the special offer: http://www.awakenwithclass.com/matt-james-special-offer/

Mahalo,
Dr. Matt

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How to Live Abundantly http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/18/how-to-live-abundantly/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-live-abundantly http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/18/how-to-live-abundantly/#respond Tue, 18 Aug 2015 14:00:43 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=3024 chair-731171_1280Aloha,

I came across an article I wanted to share called “How to Get Rid of Clutter and Live Abundantly“. It’s from the site, the Toast. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the site, it’s primarily humor. Please keep that in mind as you read the article :-)

You can appreciate this article as pure humor (it gave me a few laughs!) …and you can also go deeper and say to yourself, “What can I learn from this about de-cluttering and abundance? or about letting go? Why should I care?”

Well there’s a learning in everything, isn’t there?

Here are some of my favorites:

  • “The only thing that belongs in your refrigerator is mindfulness.”
  • “You can produce argan oil by letting go of anger”
  • “Empty your cupboards. You are ready to nourish yourself now.”

To read the full article, click here: http://the-toast.net/2015/02/24/get-rid-clutter-live-abundantly/

Hope you enjoy this as much as I do!

Mahalo,
Dr. Matt

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How to Jumpstart Your Spiritual Awakening http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/14/jump-start-your-spiritual-awakening/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=jump-start-your-spiritual-awakening http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/14/jump-start-your-spiritual-awakening/#respond Fri, 14 Aug 2015 23:16:31 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=3013 person jumping
Aloha,

I’m excited to be doing an interview on Tuesday the 18th at 5pm Pacific as part of the Conscious Life Awakened Speaker Series (CLASS). My topic for this interview is “Jumpstart Your Spiritual Awakening with NLP and Huna”

 You can sign up for access to the interview and access to the replays of this interview, by entering your email address on this page here: http://www.awakenwithclass.com/

In this interview, I will help you discover how the scientifically proven strategies of NLP and the ancient Hawaiian esoteric practices of Huna can help you attain spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical strength so that you can become fully empowered on your path.

– Unlock the power and vast resources of your unconscious mind.
– Improve the communication and connection between you and your higher self.
– Understand how energy works and how you can make it work for you.
– Learn how to turn any set back into and opportunity.
– Learn strategies for releasing past emotional baggage.

When you join, you’ll get two bonuses from CLASS Host, Vicki Howie: a free download of her beautiful “Heart Chakra Healing Song” and her popular Ho’oponopono Meditation for cultivating love and forgiveness.

So be sure to opt in to the free CLASS Series here, and I’ll “see” you there!

 

Mahalo,
Dr Matt
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Uh Oh! The Shadow is ME! http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/11/the-shadow-is-me/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-shadow-is-me http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/11/the-shadow-is-me/#comments Tue, 11 Aug 2015 13:45:49 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=3007 “We have met the enemy and he is us!”sillhouette girl

Walter Kelly,

creator of the Pogo cartoon strip

In my last blog, I started talking about the Shadow and how to recognize it. The Shadow is everything that reminds you of what you really don’t like or think just isn’t good or right. It’s what you are really trying to not be.

In the first stage of integrating, you project your Shadow “out there” in the world. It’s anything that angers, upsets or even just plain irritates you. The Shadow of an avowed feminist might be weak females or cultures that subjugate women.  A dedicated good citizen might be sensitive to crooks or even jaywalkers.

By the second stage, the Shadow projection seems to be coming closer. “We’ve been infiltrated. It could be anyone!” You start seeing whatever it is that pushes your buttons all around you. This is the stage that become a like witch hunt: You protect yourself from the Shadow by accusing everyone around you of being that “evil” thing.

The truth is, the vast majority of people never get beyond these two stages. Evil remains “out there” and we refuse to admit that we hold these Shadow qualities within us. The problem with this approach is that by denying the Shadow, you deny a large part of yourself. You remained blocked creatively, spiritually, emotionally, even sexually! By integrating the Shadow, you can become fully expressed and alive, or as Jung described it, “self-actualized.”

In this blog, I’ll talk about the next stage and how to move through it.

Stage Three: The third phase is in a sense trickier than the first two stages. It’s when you realize that the quality or traits you most hate is actually within you. This realization creates great internal conflict with the values you cherish and beliefs you have about yourself.

The conflict of Stage Three can show up in a number of ways. For example, say a politician has publicly grandstanded against gays and lesbians. Then suddenly it’s revealed that he’s been involved in same-sex liaisons for years. (This is just hypothetical of course. This would never happen, right?) In this case, the person tried so hard to deny his Shadow that it had to burst forth and act out, almost out of control!

The conflict of Shadow traits within us can also show up as extreme guilt. An honest woman may feel wracked with guilt simply because she feels tempted to embezzle from her company. Rather than accept that desire – and that it isn’t necessary to act out on it – she may internalize the projection and begin perceiving herself as bad or flawed.

The key here is to be proactive about recognizing your Shadow projections and accepting that they are part of you.

It’s important to note that the Shadow may not be an exact match to what irritates or angers you. Your Shadow might be a larger concept and what irks you is just an example of it. For example, a student of mine used to get really bent out of shape because “people are so messy.” His “enemy” left her dirty dishes in the sink and her shoes all over the place. When he looked at that, he really couldn’t see that he himself was messy. So I asked him, “What is messy an example of?”  He decided that messiness was a sign of being inconsiderate. “And what is inconsiderate an example of?” In his mind, it was an example of not caring about others or being self-centered. And this was the Shadow that really bothered him. At that point, he had to question himself: “Am I uncaring or self-centered?”

Acceptance becomes the key here.  Of course, you’re selfish and self-centered! We all are, at least sometimes. It’s part of being human. And by accepting that, this student was able to recognize what he hadn’t been expressing in his life: He was so concerned about being caring of others that he wasn’t really taking care of himself. He actually needed to be a bit more Self-centered.

Another example: One of my close friends, Kathy Singh became a vegan, and immediately became a righteous vegan. “As soon as I became a vegan, I suddenly saw everyone else around me eating meat,” she said. “I hadn’t noticed it before. I didn’t realize how many people ate meat. And I thought I had to take up a cause.” (Stage one and Two)

But after a while, she noticed something else: “I realized that they had something that I didn’t have. They could go to any restaurant and eat something. They had a flexibility that I so desperately desired, an ability to express themselves.” It took her a while, but finally she figured out how to give herself that flexibility too.

That Shadow behavior you see in others and finally in yourself is not appearing because your unconscious mind wants to torment you. It’s appearing to signal you that a part of you is craving expression.

In my own example, I remember years ago having a strong reaction to stories about rape. I’d flash on some newscast talking about someone who had been sexually assaulted and I’d just lose it. I talked it through with my father and it was clear to both of us that I didn’t harbor some deep desire to assault someone. So I did a lot of soul searching.

Suddenly, it dawned on me that, in the relationship I was in at the time, I had no freedom of expression within our intimacy. I had no freedom to say, “Here’s what I enjoy. Here’s what I don’t enjoy.” I felt almost a shame and a fear, a fear that translated into anger, about expressing who and what I was.

To bring this conflict to my attention, my Shadow put the most extreme of what I am not out there in front of me. It might seem easier to ignore this kind of thing. To avoid it rather than to truly critically look at yourself and say, “If this is bothering me so much, what do I need to know?” But the price of avoiding the Shadow’s messages is living an unsatisfying, unexpressed life.

Stay tuned until next time when we’ll cover the next two stages: Mea Culpa, and finally, It’s All Okay.

This final quote could describe the perfect approach to our Shadow:

“To the artist there is never anything ugly in nature.”

Auguste Rodin

Be an artist with your life and until next time, have fun noticing the Shadow within!

Mahalo,

Dr. Matt

 

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What Does Your Body Say About You? http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/04/what-your-body-says-about-you/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=what-your-body-says-about-you http://www.drmatt.com/2015/08/04/what-your-body-says-about-you/#respond Tue, 04 Aug 2015 13:45:25 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2999 introspective womanAloha,

When you think of what your body says about you, do you think about these things?

  • What your sagging middle or 6-pack abs might say to other people
  • What you “hear” from your reflection in the mirror
  • The signals your body tries to give you
  • Your body type and what that announces about you
  • What your body says to your physician or healer
  • What your body says about your character

Whatever your answer was, it indicates something about your relationship to your body.

Several years ago, here’s what my body said to me, “Matt, you aren’t really walking your talk. Based on how you treat your physical body, you aren’t really living the totally empowered life you’re telling others is possible.”

In my newest Psychology Today article “What does your body say about you?”, I help you uncover what your body is trying to tell you and why you want to be listening.

To read more, click this link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/focus-forgiveness/201508/what-does-your-body-say-about-you

Mahalo,

Dr.Matt

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Do placebos work, even when you know it’s fake? http://www.drmatt.com/2015/07/28/do-placebos-work-even-when-you-know-its-fake/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=do-placebos-work-even-when-you-know-its-fake http://www.drmatt.com/2015/07/28/do-placebos-work-even-when-you-know-its-fake/#respond Wed, 29 Jul 2015 02:23:00 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2996 Aloha,health-846862_1280

I found this to be amazing! Did you know “the placebo effect” takes place even when you know you are receiving a placebo?

It’s true, according to Scott M. Schafer, Luana Colloca and Tor D. Wager in a article published earlier this year in The Journal of Pain.

Here is the link to read more.

A special thanks to Aditi for sharing this article with us!

Mahalo!
Dr. Matt

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Why You’re Pretty Much Unconscious All the Time http://www.drmatt.com/2015/07/09/unconscious-all-the-time/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=unconscious-all-the-time http://www.drmatt.com/2015/07/09/unconscious-all-the-time/#respond Thu, 09 Jul 2015 13:45:59 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2989 Small figurine siting on a brian

Aloha,

Scientists have gone back and forth for years about whether our unconscious is 95% of who we are or 99% of who we are. If our unconscious really is most of who we are, doesn’t that make you a little curious about our our consciousness?

I just came across a great article on Time.com “Why You’re Pretty Much Unconscious All the Time,” by Jeffrey Kluger

He states, “In a new paper published in the journal Behavioral and Brain Sciences, a group of researchers led by associate professor of psychology Ezequiel Morsella of San Francisco State University, took on the somewhat narrower question of exactly what consciousness is—and came up with a decidedly bleaker view: It’s pretty much nothing at all.”

According to the research, it the unconscious that’s really in charge.

To read more click here: http://time.com/3937351/consciousness-unconsciousness-brain/

Mahalo,

Dr Matt

 

 

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Is Health Optional? http://www.drmatt.com/2015/07/02/is-health-optional/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=is-health-optional http://www.drmatt.com/2015/07/02/is-health-optional/#respond Thu, 02 Jul 2015 13:45:20 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2985 Is Health Optional

“To keep the body in good health is a duty… otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.”

Buddha 

Health as a duty — interesting idea, isn’t it? I think too many of us in our culture see health as an “option,” that it’s our personal choice whether we’ll be healthy or not. After all, we are all guaranteed the freedom of life, liberty and the pursuit of Nachos, right?

Great health is nice, but as long as I’m not sick and can still do everything I need to do, isn’t that good enough? And if my body has problems, I can always zip over to my friendly family doctor and get her to prescribe something to keep it all together, right?

Honestly, this is kinda how I used to approach my own physical health.

Up until about 7 years ago, I was pretty overweight — okay, actually I had grown so large that I officially qualified as obese. I’d been an athlete in high school but it all fell apart after I graduated. I ate what I wanted (even knowing it was bad for me) then avoided exercise because I was self-conscious about my size. And even though I conscientiously cleared negative emotions and limiting beliefs in all other areas of my life, I avoided doing anything about the area of my physical health. I made a few attempts to get healthier — tried a few diets, did some short-term stints at the gym — but I didn’t stick with it.

In other words, I was doing what too many of us do: just enough to keep from being sick.

During those same years, I trained others on how to be fully empowered in their mental (Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP), emotional (Mental Emotional Release® or MER®) and spiritual lives (Huna). But I completely neglected that all-important fourth leg of the foundation that supports empowerment — our physical bodies. In fact, my own physical health was so marginal that after every intensive training, my body would completely fall apart. I’d end up running to my doctor to get antibiotics just so I could recuperate!

Not good.

Denis Waitley once said, “The winners in life treat their body as if it were a magnificent spacecraft that gives them the finest transportation and endurance for their lives.” I was treating my body like a beat-up homemade skateboard that could be exchanged for a new one at any time.

I finally realized (with a nudge from my wife, Soomi) that I wasn’t being congruent with what I was teaching. To be fully empowered requires optimal health on all levels. It’s not an option, and it’s not enough to be just “not sick” if we want to fulfill our purpose in life.

According to the constitution of the World Health Organization, “Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.”

And because my doctorate is in Integrative Health, I know how intricately all of our systems work with one another. A stressed-out emotional life leads to a compromised immune system. A body that doesn’t get the nourishment it needs leads to sluggish, foggy thinking. A belief in limitation leads to feelings of despair which leads to hormonal imbalance in the body and even chronic pain. To get to the optimal physical health I wanted, I knew I had to make sure all systems were on board with the program.

Fortunately, I already had all the tools I needed to turn the ship around on the mental, emotional and spiritual levels. I used MER® to release the negative emotions I had around my physical health. I employed techniques in NLP to shift certain mindsets that were holding me back from doing what I knew I needed to do. And I worked with Huna to balance the energies.

Next, I did my research and found an amazing program and coach to work with me on the physical level. Today, I’m not just “disease-free,” I’m the healthiest I’ve ever been. Perfect health for me is having all the energy I need to do what I want to do, feeling like I can fire on all cylinders to fulfill my purpose in life and knowing that my body is oriented toward health rather than sickness.

Why am I telling you all this? Because I know I’m not the only one who had thrown physical health under the bus to some extent. We know we need to be mentally sharp for our work and emotionally available for our families and relationships. And we might even sense that our spiritual connection is important so needs some consideration. But our bodies? Often they only get our full attention when they aren’t keeping up with the pace we’ve set!

“We spend the first half of our lives wasting our health to gain wealth. And the second half of our lives spending our wealth to regain our health.”

— Unknown

We often don’t acknowledge the role our physical health plays in our lives until that health is missing.

But that has changed for me. I recognize that this fourth leg — physical health — is not only important for my personal life, it’s important to include in my work of empowering others.

So I encourage you to take a look and see if your physical health is getting the care and attention it deserves so you can create the life that you desire. Whether your current aim is to strengthen your relationships or build your business or experience a deeper spiritual connection, the physical well-being of your body is crucial. As the ancient Greek physician Herophilus wrote:

“When health is absent, wisdom cannot reveal itself, art cannot manifest, strength cannot fight, wealth becomes useless, and intelligence cannot be applied.”  

To your excellent health!

Mahalo—

Dr.Matt.

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