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When I’m teaching about prosperity and someone brings up the issue of debt, my answer is pretty blunt:

In Western culture, spending more than you have is a desperate attempt to mask the pain of not living your life’s purpose. If you are living your life’s purpose, you don’t overspend and you don’t end up in debt. Period.

(But how do you really feel, Dr. Matt?)

I’ll tell you how I really feel,  in my newest Huffington Post article “Has Debt Become Your Drug of Choice?”

Not only can overspending be highly destructive to your life and cause all kinds of problems and stress, it can also keep you from recognizing the real issue: That we are all here to express our own unique life purpose, and that you were born to find that purpose and live it.

This seed of our purpose is inside us and, if we don’t acknowledge it, we feel an unrelenting ache. But since Western culture doesn’t put much emphasis on “life purpose,” we find other ways to ease that ache.

To know more about how people who are living their purpose spend money, read my newest Huffington Post article here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matthew-b-james-phd/has-debt-become-your-drug_b_6875478.html


Dr Matt

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How the Power of Your Mind is Keeping You Broke http://www.drmatt.com/2015/03/19/your-mind-keeps-you-broke/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=your-mind-keeps-you-broke http://www.drmatt.com/2015/03/19/your-mind-keeps-you-broke/#comments Thu, 19 Mar 2015 13:45:40 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2925 Empty pockets


“The man who never has money enough to pay his debts has too much of something else.”

James Lendall Basford


I’m guessing when Basford wrote that quote, he was saying that a person who can’t pay their debts has too much “stuff” they can’t afford. Maybe that they haven’t learned to budget or “live within their means.” Maybe they have too little discipline and too much focus on instant gratification.

But in my experience, the something that is “too much” when someone is stuck in debt is their limiting beliefs and negative emotions around money that reside in the unconscious mind.

Today, most of us have come to believe in the power of our conscious and unconscious minds. We’ve heard about it from everyone, from ancient philosophers like Marcus Aurelius (“Our life is what our thoughts make it.”) to spiritual teachers like Swami Vivekananda (“The greatest force is derived from the power of thought.”) to modern motivational speakers like Zig Ziglar (“Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.”)

So we try to consciously “activate” this awesome power of our unconscious mind to improve our financial circumstances by saying affirmations, making vision boards and setting goals. The critical point we’re missing is that the power of our unconscious minds is already activated —  it’s just active with thoughts and beliefs that are counter to what we want!

It does no good to spend 10 minutes morning and night saying positive affirmations about abundance and wealth if we spend the other 23 hours and 40 minutes worrying about it. As long as your prevailing thoughts and feelings are anxiety about money, fear that you won’t have enough, and doubt that you’re really capable of producing the income you want, your negative thoughts and their underlying beliefs will create your reality.

The emotional intensity of your worry and doubt combined with the consistency of it tells your unconscious mind that this (not those slick affirmations) is where it should focus.

How do you know that your prevailing thoughts and underlying beliefs about money are limiting? Just look at your results.

If you aren’t getting the financial results you say you want, then your powerful mind is working on a different agenda, one that is set to produce the results you’ve got.

It’s working perfectly.

As Albert Einstein put it, “The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”  And we can’t really change our thinking without uprooting those powerful underlying beliefs that are currently running the show.

“Prosperity consciousness” can’t just be slapped over a dump yard of negative beliefs and fears about money. Those limiting beliefs and emotions are toxic and persistent. Unless they’re uprooted, they’ll either sabotage your efforts or make those efforts incredibly painful and stressful.

By the way, this isn’t because your unconscious mind is against you. On the contrary, it’s doing its best to prove that what you really believe deep down about yourself and money is true! When you release those beliefs, your unconscious mind automatically stops its efforts to prove them.

So how do you identify and release these underlying limiting beliefs and negative emotions? Honestly, the easiest and most reliable way is to use a process like the Mental Emotional Release® process that I teach. But to get started on your own, begin with a self-assessment.

List all the beliefs you have about money and notice which are limiting. This can be a bit tricky because those underlying beliefs will sound absolutely true to you! If you’ve done some work in this area, you may not hold obviously destructive beliefs like “I don’t deserve wealth.” But you may have subtler limiting beliefs like “My work is only worth so much per hour.” Maybe you’ve even done a market survey and can “prove” that this belief is true. But that’s not the point:

Any belief that holds you back from what you desire is limiting. And no matter how “true” it sounds, someone who is getting the results they desire does not believe in that belief.

Ask yourself these questions about each belief you uncover:

  • Does this belief make me feel excited and encouraged about my financial future?
  • Does this belief bring me positive energy and inspiration to act?
  • Would a highly successful person who lives in natural abundance have this belief?

If you answered “no” to any of these questions, you’ve discovered a limiting belief that is blocking your financial goals.

Your next step is to find a resource and invest the time and energy needed to release those negative emotions and limiting beliefs. I invite you to attend my free webinar called “NLP and Huna Prosperity and Money Mastery” to learn more and discover effective ways to release what you need to release to get the results you desire in your finances.

As Darwin P, Kingsley wrote:

“You have powers you never dreamed of. You can do things you never thought you could do. There are no limitations in what you can do except the limitations of your own mind.”


Dr. Matt

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Fortunately, as a culture, we’re starting to reject the “inevitability” of abusive relationships. It’s no longer acceptable for parents to beat their kids, or for spouses to verbally, physically or psychologically abuse their partners. We’re cracking down on everyone who perpetrates domestic violence, from football players to politicians. We’re teaching our kids and teenagers about the dynamics of abusive relationships, and how to set healthy boundaries for themselves to avoid them.

But there’s one type of abusive relationship that’s still tolerated in this country: It’s the abusive relationship too many of us have with money.

In my recent Psychology Today article, “Are You in an Abusive Relationship with Money?” I not only help you to recognize if you are in an unhealthy relationship with money, I outline what it takes to change that relationship for the better.

You can’t break up with or divorce money, so you may as well learn to live with it. If you want to know more about what a healthy relationship with money looks like, follow this link to read my article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/focus-forgiveness/201503/are-you-in-abusive-relationship-money


Dr Matt

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Affirmations Suck!

Before you hit unsubscribe to my blog, take a deep breath and keep reading. Oh, and say something positive to yourself.

Good…. And, now that I have your attention, let me also say, I use affirmations to power through many areas of my life. And they work really well!

I know that may have been a bit confusing, so let me clear things up. Affirmations are amazing and work really well in areas that are going really well. However, all the past and current research shows that affirmations not only do not work in areas where things are bad, they can make things worse!

Saying happy things can piss you off.

Look, if positive thinking alone could fix everything, you would have solved all your problems already. You would just need to think happy thoughts, and BOOM, problems solved. Unfortunately, it just doesn’t work that way. In fact, affirmations and/or positive thinking makes matters worse in the area you most like needed it this most. This was clearly explained by Ray Williams, a fellow Psychology Today Blogger in 2012 (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/wired-success/201210/why-dont-my-positive-affirmations-work). The research he sites explains the issues.

People in the studies who had low self-esteem actually felt worse about themselves after doing affirmation.

And, let’s get specific with this. The reason why affirmations don’t work in areas you desperately need them, is that there is an underlying issue or a deeper baggage that needs to be released. If you have overwhelming sadness, no amount of saying you are happy person is going to change that.

That is called denial and avoidance. And, quite frankly it pisses your unconscious mind off.

However, let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater, because affirmations can serve a purpose. Yesterday, I was feeling a little low on energy and not so motivated. I did a quick series of affirmations to get motivated to workout. And I had a great workout!

Fifteen years ago, when I weighted 235 pounds (which on a 5’ 9” frame is obese), no affirmation would be able to get me going. I was great at making every possible excuse in the world to avoid being healthy. Please understand, I wanted to be healthy. Most people that I have met want to be healthy, happy and successful.

I had baggage and I needed to resolve the baggage at the deeper level. Once I let the negative emotions and limiting decisions go, I had the ability to utilize positive focus and positive language in a very effect way.

There are three requisites for change and empowerment. This is modeled from successful individuals and very easy to follow.

Step 1: Release your baggage / blocks, then set a clear goal.

Step 2: Take action towards that goal

Step 3: Focus on the positive

You see, focus and affirmations come last, and again, this is how successful people operate.

Step number one is getting rid of the baggage and having a clear outcome. In a recent article on Yahoo Finance, Richard Branson describes this as the essential first step when dealing with an issue. He was discussing his decision to sue the British Government over a rail contract, and he said his first reaction was anger. Then he said, but taking action based on anger won’t lead to a positive. So he said he needed to become calm and clear first. Calm, meaning no anger, clear meaning a goal.

Once you are calm and clear, then it is time for step two, which is action. You can be totally free of baggage and have an amazing health goal, and at some point, you have to get up off the couch and go workout. You have to go the store and eat right. That is a key. So taking action is a necessary step for success.

Now that you have taken action, what do you do when the naysayers show up? “Oh, you are on a new diet? We shall see….” You have to be able to maintain your positive focus. I did a blog post a while back about dealing with negative people, and I won’t hide from this – they do exist. This is where affirmations can be helpful. You are going to have up days and down days. The key is to keep your motivation and focus on track so you reach your goal and find that happiness.

So I guess affirmations don’t suck, rather they just need to be used at the right time. Or to put it in positive language speak; affirmations are great and use them wisely!

And now I am going to go give myself my afternoon affirmation: “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me!” (SNL reference for those that think I am being serious….)



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NLP & Huna Prosperity and Money Mastery
I’m often asked by students, “How can NLP and Huna help me to make more money?”
It’s a great question that I love answering.
I love answering this question so much I’ve decided to do a webianr on it.
The webinar is called “NLP and Huna Prosperity and Money Mastery”

Join me on 03/26/15 at 7:00pm PDT where I will teach you about wealth, prosperity, money and energy.

This is a free webinar and I will cover the following:- Understanding the foundation of prosperity
– The relationship between money and energy
– Discover the beliefs of successful and wealthy people
– Discuss the steps to discover your wealth strategy
– Finding purpose with money and wealthPlus there will be a live Q&A where I will answer any of your questions!

Dr Matt
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Introducing Dr John! http://www.drmatt.com/2015/03/03/introducing-dr-john/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=introducing-dr-john http://www.drmatt.com/2015/03/03/introducing-dr-john/#respond Tue, 03 Mar 2015 13:45:09 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2903 dr john


I’m really excited to introduce to you my new co-trainer Dr John Ryan!Dr John has been on the road co-training with me since January and he’s absolutely rocking it.

Here’s a little bit about Dr John:

John Ryan, MBA, MSW, PhD is a leading expert on communication, transformation, and business development. John shares his systems and strategies with thousands of individuals and organizations each year through training, coaching, and consulting. With almost 2 decades in the training industry, Dr. John delivers customized, captivating seminars and workshops that inspire individuals and teams to overcome obstacles and achieve their goals.

As a Certified Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and a Certified Sales Trainer, Dr. John’s mission is to empower others to fulfill their highest potential. John assists his clients in achieving greater success by sharing the philosophy behind The 7% Solution. By mastering mindset, improving communication, and taking action, students incorporate the principles of The 7% Solution as they accelerate their growth and produce greater results.

As a student, Dr. John began training with The Empowerment Partnership (TEP) in 2000. Eight years later, he joined TEP as an adjunct faculty member involved with the Masters in Transpersonal Psychology degree program, online NLP Certifications as well as other distance-education courses. As of 2015, Dr. John is excited and honored to be a co-trainer alongside Dr. Matt James as they share cutting-edge techniques and ideas to countless students throughout the world.

Dr John has been with our company a while now, it’s been a pleasure working with him all these years and it’s been a real pleasure to share the stage with him. I’m excited for you all to head out to a training so you can see for yourselves.


Dr Matt



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“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.” – Carl Rogers

Did you make a few New Year’s resolutions this year? If so, odds are that getting healthier and maybe losing weight were in your resolutions. Good for you! According to studies, three of the top ten New Year’s resolutions people make involve some form of physical fitness.

But according to statistics, by February more than a third of us have already given up on our New Year’s resolutions. And by June? Less than half of us will still be on track with the goals we set in January. Yikes!

Fitness goals get abandoned for many reasons: You may have limiting beliefs that sabotage your good intentions. Your self-image as the “fat boy” or “sickly girl” is so strong that your subconscious thwarts any attempt to change it.

You may have run into resistance to changes you want to make from people around you. They might feel threatened by your desire to become healthier and stronger—especially if they aren’t feeling so great about their own fitness.

You may have tried to set a goal that is really someone else’s good idea for you, not your own. Maybe your doctor thinks you should weigh 15 pounds less or your husband thinks you should be able to run with him in his next half-marathon. But if you aren’t passionate about that goal, it ain’t gonna happen!

I’ve written about all of those issues in previous articles. But the pitfall I want to tackle today is: You simply hate the process it takes to reach your goal.

You hate getting up in the morning to run. You hate eliminating your favorite comfort foods from your diet. You hate being at the gym with all those perfect, spandex-covered bodies.  You hate taking time out of your already frantic schedule to do all the things you need to do to become healthier.

You might be visualizing your end-goal in all its brilliant Technicolor glory. You spend time focusing on the goal, thinking how great it will be to be stronger and more flexible, how wonderful you’ll feel to fit in those skinny jeans again, how awesome it will be to have more energy and stamina to do the things you want to do.

But whenever you think of what you “have to do” to get there, ugh! You haven’t put that same positive attention on the process itself. So the path to that magnificent end still looks like a gloomy, damp trail through an alligator infested swamp!

Your negative feelings about the process to get to your goals can easily cause you to desert them before the start of Spring training! As Alan Thicke once said, ”Fitness needs to be perceived as fun and games or we subconsciously avoid it.”

One of the tricks of the trade that successful goal setters and goal getters know is how to shift that negative attitude about the journey, so that the process toward the goal is as fulfilling as achieving the goal.

Sound impossible? Here are a few tips:

  1. Reward yourself for effort, not just results. Don’t wait until you’ve fully reached your goal to applaud yourself. Give yourself kudos for all the efforts you make along the way. Each time you choose to eat something good for you and skip the junk food, give yourself a pat on the back. Every time you roll out of bed and into your running shoes, give yourself a high five. Take time to feel good about the steps you take along the path.

These rewards don’t have to be huge or extravagant. Even a gold star on your calendar for each day you work out can make you feel proud of yourself. Focus on associating good feelings with the process to dissipate negative feelings that hold you back.

  1. Find processes you already enjoy.  Not everyone enjoys weight training or eating celery sticks for breakfast, lunch, and dinner! But the world of health, fitness and weight loss has a zillion options to help you get good results. Do some research and try out different possibilities.

Hate to run? How about square dancing or Zumba for aerobic fitness? Hate being cooped up in a gym? How about Tai Chi in the park or Yoga? Or add things you enjoy to make the process more pleasurable, like candlelight to a healthy meal or music to your weight training.

  1. Turn your like to dislike and vice versa. In the Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) I teach and practice, we have several specific techniques that instantly switch your feeling of “liking” something to “disliking” it or vice versa.

These techniques are most effective when you’re guided by a qualified NLP practitioner. But to get a taste of how this could work in the area of fitness, try these steps:

  1. Visualize a specific part of your health and fitness process that you don’t like, for example working out on the treadmill. Notice how your body feels, your emotions. Is the picture of being on the treadmill in color or black and white? Far away or close? Focused or unfocused? Still or moving? What sounds do you hear?
  2. Now think of an activity that’s somewhat similar but is something you enjoy, maybe playing catch with your child. As you visualize this fun activity, notice how your body and emotions feel. Is this new picture in black or white, far or close? Sharply focused or unfocused? Still or moving? Any sounds?
  3. Finally, go back to the picture of the activity you dislike. As you see this image, start shifting its characteristics to be similar as the activity you like. In other words, if your fun activity showed up in color, add some color to the picture of the one you don’t like. Add the sounds from your fun activity. Make this picture farther or closer, moving or still to match your fun activity. As you do this, notice any shifts in your body and emotions.

Keep in mind that the vast majority of our lives will be spent heading toward our goals, not just achieving them. Make sure the journey itself is a joy-filled, satisfying one! 


Dr. Matt


Research from http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/inside-the-mind/emotions/anger2.htm

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For years my students have asked me what I do in my health and fitness path. In fact, some of you have straight up threatened me if I didn’t tell!! As many of you know, recently, I have opened up more and shared my diet; however, my workout routine has been private.

I do know that some of you know, and….. I have done my best to keep it quiet. My reason was simple; I wanted people to figure out their health and fitness on their own. And, while I believe this is a positive intention, I have realized that it also goes against some of what I teach.

Through a series of events that have occurred over the past few months, I have not only decided to share what I do (in massive detail), I have decided to integrate this with my path and what I teach. We have also partnered with a couple of people that will help implement this and assist you in not only getting into the best shape of your life, maybe even earning some income doing it.

For me, health is a Spiritual, Mental, Emotional and Physical practice, and if you don’t have one leg on a chair, you can balance for only so long.

I did a soft announcement of this in Boston at our Practitioner training and 30% of the room rushed the back table. I did a more serious announcement at the Master Practitioner training in Newport Beach back in November, and 63% of the room joined The Empowerment Partnership Health and Fitness Team.

I’m putting together a team to not only get into an amazing state of health and fitness, I want to empower you to empower others. So mark your calendar because on February 24th at 7pm Pacific, I will be hosting a free webinar announcing the opportunity to join the TEP Health & Fitness Team.

This will be an amazing opportunity to build a team that truly teaches and helps others achieve Total Integrated Health!!

To register for the webinar, follow this link: https://attendee.gotowebinar.com/register/6540079144899316225


Dr Matt

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I’m starting this year with an emphasis on fitness. Why? Well, having gone through a personal fitness transformation in the last several years myself, I’ve come to understand that being in great condition physically supports everything else in my life.

And if my mission is to empower my students so they can transform the world, they need the support of a healthy, fit body as well.

My recent article on Psychology Today “Finding Your Personal Motivator for Fitness” addresses what it takes to get motivated to become fit.

Here’s the deal: Few of us will stick to a program of getting physically fit without strong personal motivation.

Why? Because moving from out of shape to back in shape (or being in shape for the first time ever) requires effort, commitment, persistence and the willingness to change. So we won’t stick with it just because our doctor or spouse tells us “it’s good” for us. We won’t stick to it to impress the neighbors or because our buddies have decided to slim down and shape up. To stay the course, we need stronger inspiration than that.

For more from my Psychology Today article, follow this link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/focus-forgiveness/201502/finding-your-personal-motivator-fitness


Dr Matt

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“Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” – Lou Holtz

Enthusiasm. Inspiration. Passion. Motivation. Excitement.

Just reading those words, don’t you feel a little more energy in your body and mind? And if you think about their opposite—boredom, cynicism, apathy, numbness—don’t you feel that energy go dead?

I don’t have to tell you how much easier and more fun it is to do anything when you feel motivated and inspired. You know it’s true from your own life experience. Even if whatever you’re doing takes a lot of effort, it feels more like play than drudgery or work when you feel enthusiastic about it.

But too many of us live most of our lives without tapping this energy. We go to work, we do our errands and chores, we exercise or do those other things that are “good” for us simply because we’re supposed to. We plod along, doing the best we can, but without experiencing the real juice of life.

Maybe we feel like something’s missing but we don’t know what can be done about it.

Every once in a while, we stumble into feeling excited and motivated. We attend a great lecture or read an inspirational book. And for a short while, we get to feel the juice we’ve been missing. We get all pumped up! But within days—or minutes!—that alive, excited feeling fades.

The problem is that most people don’t know that the energy of motivation isn’t just for “special occasions” or certain activities. It’s always ready and available to be tapped. We don’t have to wait for a particular circumstance to feel it. Inspiration is like the sun on an overcast day. It hasn’t gone anywhere. We just need to get above the clouds to experience it again.

As the highly-acclaimed French footballer Arséne Wenger points out, “When you look at people who are successful, you will find that they aren’t the people who are motivated, but have consistency in their motivation.”

So how do you get to the place of consistency in motivation?

  1. Connect your daily activities to your purpose.

Recently, I wrote about finding your purpose. For many people, keeping in constant touch with their purpose keeps that energy of inspiration lit within them. They take all of the activities of their life and connect them directly to the purpose that they are committed to. For example, I’m excited about exercise so I can stay healthy and have the energy to fulfill my purpose to empower others to transform the world. I’m motivated to get on that plane to get to my next training because I’ll be able to empower my students to transform the world. I feel inspired to write my articles and books because I know they will empower others to transform the world. Get the drift?

To me, the connection between my purpose and my activities is very tight. Every once in a while, I have to remind myself of this connection but for the most part, I don’t even think about it.

But if you haven’t yet made that tight connection between all you do and your purpose, it’s not that difficult to do. Simply remember to ask yourself, “How does this activity support my purpose?” Rather than seeing picking up your dry cleaning as a dreaded chore, ask “How does having a clean and sharp suit to wear support that purpose I really care about?”

  1. Create inspiration rather than waiting for it.

I have a writer friend who claims she would starve to death if she waited until she was inspired to sit down and write! But if she puts herself in the arena and just starts writing, and if she reminds herself how her work can uplift and entertain others, she knows she can coax inspiration to her.

Some people use physical movement or exercise to get juices flowing. Other people find that certain music or getting out in nature makes them feel motivated. Still others use inspirational quotes or visualizing their goals. Find what works for you and add it to your routine. You’ll be amazed how much more energy you feel—and how much more enjoyable your tasks are and life becomes.

  1. Put enthusiasm on speed-dial.

In my Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) trainings, I teach a technique called “Anchoring,” Though it’s often more effective if guided by a qualified NLP practitioner, try these steps on yourself:

  1. Create a movement or touch to act as your “trigger.” It might be touching your left elbow or pinching your fingers together.
  2. Now think of a time when you felt totally enthusiastic. Keep thinking about it until you actually feel that sensation of enthusiasm in your emotions and your body.
  3. As the feelings of enthusiasm grow, activate your “trigger” (touch the elbow or pinch your fingers together). Release your trigger as soon as you feel the sense of enthusiasm fading.
  4. Repeat steps #2 and #3 with a different time when you felt totally enthusiastic.
  5. Now without thinking of anything in particular, activate your trigger. Notice the feeling of enthusiasm welling up in your emotions and body.

Next time you’re about to start a task or activity that has felt blah or burdensome in the past, activate your trigger to fire up your enthusiasm!

Until next time. . .



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