Dr Matt James http://www.drmatt.com NLP Training & Huna Training Blog Thu, 02 Jul 2015 13:45:20 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.5 Is Health Optional? http://www.drmatt.com/2015/07/02/is-health-optional/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=is-health-optional http://www.drmatt.com/2015/07/02/is-health-optional/#respond Thu, 02 Jul 2015 13:45:20 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2985 Is Health Optional

“To keep the body in good health is a duty… otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.”

Buddha 

Health as a duty — interesting idea, isn’t it? I think too many of us in our culture see health as an “option,” that it’s our personal choice whether we’ll be healthy or not. After all, we are all guaranteed the freedom of life, liberty and the pursuit of Nachos, right?

Great health is nice, but as long as I’m not sick and can still do everything I need to do, isn’t that good enough? And if my body has problems, I can always zip over to my friendly family doctor and get her to prescribe something to keep it all together, right?

Honestly, this is kinda how I used to approach my own physical health.

Up until about 7 years ago, I was pretty overweight — okay, actually I had grown so large that I officially qualified as obese. I’d been an athlete in high school but it all fell apart after I graduated. I ate what I wanted (even knowing it was bad for me) then avoided exercise because I was self-conscious about my size. And even though I conscientiously cleared negative emotions and limiting beliefs in all other areas of my life, I avoided doing anything about the area of my physical health. I made a few attempts to get healthier — tried a few diets, did some short-term stints at the gym — but I didn’t stick with it.

In other words, I was doing what too many of us do: just enough to keep from being sick.

During those same years, I trained others on how to be fully empowered in their mental (Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP), emotional (Mental Emotional Release® or MER®) and spiritual lives (Huna). But I completely neglected that all-important fourth leg of the foundation that supports empowerment — our physical bodies. In fact, my own physical health was so marginal that after every intensive training, my body would completely fall apart. I’d end up running to my doctor to get antibiotics just so I could recuperate!

Not good.

Denis Waitley once said, “The winners in life treat their body as if it were a magnificent spacecraft that gives them the finest transportation and endurance for their lives.” I was treating my body like a beat-up homemade skateboard that could be exchanged for a new one at any time.

I finally realized (with a nudge from my wife, Soomi) that I wasn’t being congruent with what I was teaching. To be fully empowered requires optimal health on all levels. It’s not an option, and it’s not enough to be just “not sick” if we want to fulfill our purpose in life.

According to the constitution of the World Health Organization, “Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.”

And because my doctorate is in Integrative Health, I know how intricately all of our systems work with one another. A stressed-out emotional life leads to a compromised immune system. A body that doesn’t get the nourishment it needs leads to sluggish, foggy thinking. A belief in limitation leads to feelings of despair which leads to hormonal imbalance in the body and even chronic pain. To get to the optimal physical health I wanted, I knew I had to make sure all systems were on board with the program.

Fortunately, I already had all the tools I needed to turn the ship around on the mental, emotional and spiritual levels. I used MER® to release the negative emotions I had around my physical health. I employed techniques in NLP to shift certain mindsets that were holding me back from doing what I knew I needed to do. And I worked with Huna to balance the energies.

Next, I did my research and found an amazing program and coach to work with me on the physical level. Today, I’m not just “disease-free,” I’m the healthiest I’ve ever been. Perfect health for me is having all the energy I need to do what I want to do, feeling like I can fire on all cylinders to fulfill my purpose in life and knowing that my body is oriented toward health rather than sickness.

Why am I telling you all this? Because I know I’m not the only one who had thrown physical health under the bus to some extent. We know we need to be mentally sharp for our work and emotionally available for our families and relationships. And we might even sense that our spiritual connection is important so needs some consideration. But our bodies? Often they only get our full attention when they aren’t keeping up with the pace we’ve set!

“We spend the first half of our lives wasting our health to gain wealth. And the second half of our lives spending our wealth to regain our health.”

— Unknown

We often don’t acknowledge the role our physical health plays in our lives until that health is missing.

But that has changed for me. I recognize that this fourth leg — physical health — is not only important for my personal life, it’s important to include in my work of empowering others.

So I encourage you to take a look and see if your physical health is getting the care and attention it deserves so you can create the life that you desire. Whether your current aim is to strengthen your relationships or build your business or experience a deeper spiritual connection, the physical well-being of your body is crucial. As the ancient Greek physician Herophilus wrote:

“When health is absent, wisdom cannot reveal itself, art cannot manifest, strength cannot fight, wealth becomes useless, and intelligence cannot be applied.”  

To your excellent health!

Mahalo—

Dr.Matt.

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Improving Your Dating Life Using NLP http://www.drmatt.com/2015/06/25/improving-your-dating-life-using-nlp/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=improving-your-dating-life-using-nlp http://www.drmatt.com/2015/06/25/improving-your-dating-life-using-nlp/#comments Thu, 25 Jun 2015 13:45:18 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2982  

Aloha, Improve Your Dating Life Using NLP

Every now and then, my students ask me how NLP can help them in their dating life.

I was recently did a really fun interview with radio host Erin Tillman, who happens to be one of my newest students, on her show The Dating Advice Girl. In this interview, Erin and I discuss how NLP can help you with flirting, establishing rapport with a potential love-interest, and even getting over a breakup with an ex.

To access the interview, follow this link:

http://thedatingadvicegirl.com/2015/06/22/ep-119-of-the-dating-advice-girl-radio-show-now-posted-improving-your-dating-life-using-nlp/

Mahalo,

Dr Matt

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Are You Using Anger – or Is It Using You? http://www.drmatt.com/2015/06/18/are-you-using-anger/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=are-you-using-anger http://www.drmatt.com/2015/06/18/are-you-using-anger/#respond Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:45:49 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2974 Fist Clenched in Anger

Aloha,

Is it just me or does it seem like there are a lot of angry folks out there? Road rage, screaming politician pundits, feuding celebrities and domestic violence—it’s like everyone’s taking their cues from Big Time Wrestling, pounding their chests and looking for someone to slam around!

My newest blog post for Psychology Today, “Are You Using Anger – or Is It Using You?” is about how to get in touch with and let go of your anger.

I have nothing against anger. It’s one of our basic emotions and, when the situation warrants it, the feeling it is natural and the energy of anger can even be useful. Anger can help us stand up for ourselves or give us the momentum to make the changes we need to make.

But when anger is a constant state—either in a society or a person—it’s rarely useful and usually destructive.

From my perspective, a constant state of anger or an explosive anger that is disproportionate to the situation indicates a root cause from the past that is fueling the flames in the present. If that root cause isn’t dealt with, the anger builds with every subsequent incident, snowballing until it seems to have a life of its own.

Read more about getting to the root of the anger in my newest Psychology Today blog post here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/focus-forgiveness/201506/are-you-using-your-anger-or-is-it-using-you

Mahalo,

Dr Matt

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Is Anger Wrecking Your Relationships http://www.drmatt.com/2015/06/12/wrecking-your-relationships/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=wrecking-your-relationships http://www.drmatt.com/2015/06/12/wrecking-your-relationships/#comments Fri, 12 Jun 2015 13:45:58 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2971 Angry Couple “The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.”

 – Barbara de Angelis

From my perspective, if you never feel anger, you’re either an ascended master or emotionally numb!

Energetically, anger is very close to passion, and it can motivate us to do things we never thought possible. Anger that’s appropriate and proportionate to the situation is healthy, especially when it leads to productive solutions.

That said, anger that’s been festering in your system for decades is like a live volcano: it’s always bubbling below the surface and could blow any time without warning! And more often than not, it doesn’t explode at the original root cause of the anger. It builds up steam from that original cause, builds up more pressure from subsequent events, then blows its top over something inconsequential. And when it does, just like a volcano, it can destroy everything in its path.

In my mind, anger becomes an “anger issue” when it is a constant theme underlying your thinking and your emotions, when it feels like it has a life of its own, when it blasts forth with little or no provocation, when it causes you to do or say things that are destructive to yourself or those around you.

In relationships, whether it’s with co-workers, friends or your significant other, anger issues can act like a corrosive substance. In low doses, it causes irritation. In high doses, it eats away at the relationship until it’s completely destroyed.

When chronic festering anger is expressed, it often comes out in destructive or abusive ways. The person on the other end of these explosions builds up resentment and/or fear. But unexpressed anger can be just as destructive. It creates a kind of cold war tension, encourages silent power plays and restricts communication or cuts it off completely. Not the stuff of great relationships!

Many people who have “anger issues” are actually aware that their anger is a problem. They’ve seen it destroy their relationships, their marriages, their careers. They don’t like the feeling of being constantly angry or the feeling of being out of control. They’ve sought help but for many people typical “anger management” therapies have simply not worked.

Several years ago, I asked for a volunteer to demonstrate a technique in one of my Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) workshops. A woman I’ll call Mona raised her hand. Mona had seen a variety of psychologists for 10 years to deal with her anger issues. Her volatile and almost constant anger had cost her a marriage as well as several jobs, and she was beginning to see that it was effecting her health. But the therapies she tried over the years didn’t get rid of this anger, and she had just about given up on even trying.

The various therapies Mona had tried worked with the conscious mind. She was taught to recognize potential anger triggers, avoid them or cope with the anger that arose using relaxation techniques, and to communicate her needs in the situation in a positive way. This might work for some folks. But for Mona, like many people I’ve worked with, the anger was too strong and too swift for her conscious mind to control it.

To demonstrate another option, I gave Mona a brief explanation of the Mental Emotional Release® (MER®) process. This process works with the unconscious mind to unearth and revisit the “root cause” of her anger. The root cause is like that specific bulb on a string of Christmas lights: Once you unplug it, the whole string of lights goes dark. So once the root cause of Mona’s anger was unplugged, all of the anger she’d built up with subsequent events would unplug as well.

The objective in MER® is not to have Mona never experience anger again. The point is to clear all the past festering anger so that any anger she felt in the future was connected to that future situation only – pure, healthy anger without the old baggage in play.

The technique took about ten minutes. When it was done, Mona looked at me and said, “My anger has disappeared!” That statement was quickly followed by, “Wait, that was too easy! How do I know if it is really gone?”

The discussion I had with Mona after doing the technique took longer than the process itself! I explained that it’s possible to let old negative emotions go, and we do it all the time. MER® simply uses our natural release process in a directed, concentrated form. Three years later, I saw Mona again and she immediately said, “I am not sure why it was so easy, but it worked!!”

The important point I want to make is that an “anger issue” has its roots in the unconscious. You may be able to cope with your festering anger with conscious techniques. But to be free from it completely, you need to work with the unconscious.

As Mark Twain remarked, “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” If chronic or explosive anger is causing damage in your life, know that there are solutions for you.

Mahalo—

Dr.Matt.

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The Next Ten Years http://www.drmatt.com/2015/06/04/the-next-ten-years/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-next-ten-years http://www.drmatt.com/2015/06/04/the-next-ten-years/#comments Thu, 04 Jun 2015 13:45:25 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2967 man-690201_1280

Aloha,

The condition of the human spirit is interesting right now. We are on a balance point between the “old” way of thinking and a “new” paradigm in consciousness. Thought leaders are beginning to see this and some are acting on it. Many know that there is no going back.

When I began to teach in the 90s there would still be people in my events that would argue over the mind-body connection. Is it real? Does energy exist? Should I really focus on purpose, or should I just set a goal for my next new car?

My journey seems to go through ten-year cycles. Twenty years ago, I made decisions that created the path for the first ten. Ten years ago events occurred that led to where I am now. This year, I am looking at what the next ten years will look like.

As I have said numerous times, I love teaching now, as much of what could have been argued about previously, no longer can be. We live in amazing times, where energy has not only been proven to exist, you can find studies (dating back to the 80s) that validate that energy and environment have a greater influence on the expression of your genes than anything else, for example (see Lipton, Biology of Belief).

Meaning you 100% have the ability to become empowered, period.

I have dedicated my life to empowerment, and many of you that read my blog have dedicated a large part of your life to this as well. (Or you just like my blog, I don’t know…..) I sit here now, wondering where we are heading over the next decade.

From an empowerment and spiritual perspective we have just re-discovered that a lot of ancient concepts are real. It is as if we live in the age of discovery when we found out that the world is actually round or that the sun is at the center of solar system. From a personal growth perspective, we are right there. And yes, I know that much of what I am saying has been present for a while now, yet we still allow the media and Hollywood the opportunity to guide and shape our reality.

As my father used to ask groups, do you want to be a sheep or a shepherd.

The ancients had many concepts right, and now we know that. So the question is not whether you believe in energy, the question is what are you doing with the energy you have? What are you doing with your natural ability to release your baggage and begin to take action on your path?

Are you choosing to continue to see the earth as flat and ignore the simple truth that you are buying into the limitations of others, or are you beginning to notice your own empowerment and transformation?

Here is what I would like you to do. Stop for a moment and ask yourself what stories do you tell that perpetuate your disempowerment. We all tell stories, we all share pain. Are you doing it because you want to be free of it? Great, let’s release it! Or, are you doing it because it defines you and gives you an excuse to be less than the person you are meant to be.

Do you know why you are here yet? Have you found your purpose?

Purpose is not complicated. Mine is simple, I want to teach people to empower their lives. I can get specific from there. I can add in the areas that are personal, that I want to live what I teach. In essence I want my life to be empowered as well.

Do you accept your gifts and cultivate your path?

I meet students that say, “I want to do what you do with energy!” Why!! Learn what your gift is, and cultivate that! My path is Huna, NLP, MER, and that may not be yours. I found these paths on my own and I own them as mine. Are you practicing the things that help you to move down the path, or are you becoming stagnant. The grass is only greener if you slow down on the path and eat it all. Take a few more steps and you will find a greener pasture.

Finally, are you taking the time to be happy in life?

For many people, things boil down to happiness, and so my task for you is to make a list of the people, things and activities that bring you joy and happiness. During this time of year, stop for a moment and pay them some attention and gratitude. Tell that special someone how amazing they are. Tell your child how brilliant they are. And then, set some time aside to be with the ones that bring you joy, and do the activities the make your heart sing.

I don’t have a crystal ball, what I do know is that these basic concepts of knowing and living your purpose and focusing on the things that make you happy are a part of creating a joyful and fulfilling life. The great news is, there are so many things that you already know and there are so many things I teach that will get you closer to that joy. I am spending time and energy looking at how we can begin to teach concepts and ideas that are current and empowering. I am looking forward to my next ten years. I hope you are too.

A hui hou,

Dr Matt

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Embracing the Shadow http://www.drmatt.com/2015/05/29/embracing-the-shadow/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=embracing-the-shadow http://www.drmatt.com/2015/05/29/embracing-the-shadow/#comments Fri, 29 May 2015 13:45:35 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2960 A dark figure in the night

“I really believe that all of us have a lot of darkness in our souls. Anger, rage, fear, sadness. I don’t think that’s only reserved for people who have horrible upbringings. I think it really exists and is part of the human condition. I think in the course of your life you figure out ways to deal with that.”

- Kevin Bacon

In the quote above, Kevin Bacon is describes what’s known as the Shadow. And it turns out that we need to embrace our Shadow to become whole, to express our deepest creativity and to connect with our higher self.

Who knew?

The Shadow is all that you think is not you. It’s those qualities we deny in ourselves. The Shadow is everything that we refuse to accept as being part of us. “I would never do that. That’s not me. I am not that way.” It’s a little like denying that your BM’s have odor. Yes, they do – as does everyone’s!

For most of us, the Shadow is not so obvious when we’re young. The Shadow begins to show up as adults when we’ve clearly defined ourselves as the ego or the persona we show to the world. Prior to meeting our Shadow, life is very one-dimensional. “I’m a banker.” “I’m a trainer.” “I’m a husband.” “I’m a wife.” As we develop and define our own ego, we can also become one-dimensional emotionally. “I’m very responsible.”“I’m open-minded.”“I’m loving.” Really? Always?

Deep down inside, we know life is more than our titles, roles or our most virtuous personality traits. Deep down inside, we realize that we are more than just that one-dimensional being. And when we start to venture out to become more than we have been, that’s when the Shadow will rear its lovely head, sometimes wreaking havoc on our lives.

Why? The Shadow has a purpose. It’s there to balance you. To bring you to wholeness.

I love a quote I saw from Amy Grant: “Without black, no color has any depth. But if you mix black with everything, suddenly there’s shadow – no, not just shadow, but fullness. You’ve got to be willing to mix black into your palette if you want to create something that’s real.”

You’ve got to embrace your Shadow aspects to live a rich and fully expressed life.

Don’t get me wrong. Embracing the Shadow doesn’t mean we’re supposed to throw out our current belief system or values. The Shadow doesn’t have any judgment about either end of any spectrum of qualities. It doesn’t prefer tolerance over intolerance, cranky over happy; extroverted over introverted. The Shadow doesn’t care. It just wants to balance things out, to bring you to wholeness. The Shadow, with its not-you, appears so we can notice that our current set of values, beliefs, roles or preferences are too restricted.

How does the Shadow show up? Often it’s in the external. You’re determined to be calm, cool and collected, and immediately crazy, overly-emotional drama Queens and Kings show up on your doorstep. Or you vow to move on from your wild past and instantly run into every one you ever knew back when “Party!” was your middle name.

If the imbalance is extreme, people start acting out themselves, becoming their own polar opposites. Ghandi, one of the world’s most revered peacemakers and advocates for non-violence, confessed to being abusive to his wife in his younger years. More than one Bible-quoting minister has committed the“sinful”adultery he rails against. Good guys are exposed as bad guys everyday — and vice versa. As Jung said, “Every extreme psychological position has the potential to flip into its opposite.” And this flip is a lot easier than you imagine.

There is a real danger in holding onto a rigid belief system that the world is one way and only one way. When we perceive the world as one way, we attempt to fit everything into nice, tidy, clear-cut categories. We divide the world into clear-cut opposites and embrace one side. It’s right versus wrong. But the truth is that the world is not black and white, good and evil.

Anytime you say, “That’s not me. I could never do it,” it actually is within you. And as scary as that may sound, the Shadow is something that you do need to acknowledge and reconcile. Take the most peace-loving activist. He needs to admit the countless instances of harm being done in the name of peace. As peaceful as you might be, if someone you loved was being threatened and in danger, I’m betting you’d find a violent urge inside yourself that would make Rambo look like a wimp!

So how to embrace this Shadow?

Your first step in working with the Shadow is to recognize the Shadow.  Look for emotional outbursts, especially ones that seem all out of proportion to whatever is going on. Notice if a certain person or a certain type of person consistently gets on your nerves. That’s your Shadow.

Whether the Shadow appears externally or internally, own it. This not-you is you. This doesn’t mean you have to act out as the Shadow. And accepting the Shadow doesn’t negate your sense of right and wrong. Rather, it enhances your own ability to be pono (aligned and clear) with yourself and to know where your boundaries are.

People like artists and actors know that by fully experiencing Shadow emotions of anger or grief, they can more fully tap the passion they need to create and express. By accepting the value of Shadow emotions, you can actually unleash real passion and experience true intimacy in your relationships. The trick is to accept the Shadow and to experience the Shadow’s emotions voluntarily rather than letting them run you!

Best wishes from me and my Shadow!

Mahalo,

Dr. Matt

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Is Fear Calling the Shots http://www.drmatt.com/2015/05/19/is-fear-calling-the-shots/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=is-fear-calling-the-shots http://www.drmatt.com/2015/05/19/is-fear-calling-the-shots/#respond Tue, 19 May 2015 13:45:33 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2955 Statue of a fearful man

Aloha,

Fear is one of our basic human emotions. It was wired into our systems for a purpose: to signal us in times of danger and prepare us physically so we can do what’s necessary to survive. When it’s warranted, fear can be one of our most important allies.

But these days, fear has become big business rather than a helpful, valuable resource.

And for too many of us, fear is a huge factor in the choices we make in life. But decisions and choices made from fear are flawed if not downright dangerous. In my newest Psychology Today article “Is Fear Calling the Shots,” is all about the ways that fear may be showing up in your life. Fear’s knee-jerk “Run! The saber-toothed tiger’s coming!”mentality will never create the healthy fulfilling lives we want. Whereas fear used to show up only in response to real threats to survival, now its alarm sounds whenever we stick a toe outside our “comfort zone.”

Could fear be calling the shots in your life, or in certain areas of your life? Read my newest Psychology Today article and discover how to recognize when fear is calling the shots and what you can do about it.

Read the article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/focus-forgiveness/201505/is-fear-calling-the-shots

Mahalo,

Dr Matt

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Dancing With Your Shadow http://www.drmatt.com/2015/05/08/dancing-with-your-shadow/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=dancing-with-your-shadow http://www.drmatt.com/2015/05/08/dancing-with-your-shadow/#respond Fri, 08 May 2015 13:45:32 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2948 a shadow dances

“I think the healthy way to live is to make friends with the beast inside oneself, and that means not the beast but the shadow. The dark side of one’s nature. Have fun with it and you know, is to accept everything about ourselves.”

- Anthony Hopkins

Aloha,

I love that quote! So many people look at the process of integrating the Shadow as frightening, difficult and painful. But you can also have some fun with it – if you understand what’s happening.

Our awareness and integration of the Shadow follows certain stages.

Stage One: I See the Enemy! In this first stage, you are conscious of the external projection, the not-me.  Some textbooks on Jungian psychology call this “the crusader phase” because when you see it out there and you have that desire to squash it. You want to destroy whatever it is because it reminds you of what you should not be or don’t want it to be. So the avowed pacifist will see violence; the ardent environmentalist will see polluters; the loving parent will see child abuse.

In this stage, you’ll know that you’re reacting to your Shadow if something or someone really angers or frightens you. Personally, I’d say that any irritation or annoyance also points to a Shadow issue. It’s just not as extreme. You might find yourself denying this reaction. You claim to “be cool with it” when you really want to choke someone!

If you stay in this first stage where the Shadow is “out there,” you can’t resolve the Shadow. This is especially true if you actively fight against that Shadow quality and become a crusader: “Let’s go get those bad guys. I’m going to make my life about making those people miserable.”It may seem virtuous to fight evil, but it can leave you stuck.

Mother Teresa was pretty smart about the Shadow. Most people think of her as a strong pacifist.  But she said, “I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.” She had figured out that being “anti” something doesn’t work, doesn’t resolve the Shadow.  As George Foreman once said, “I’ve seen George Foreman shadow boxing and the shadow won.”

The best way to get through this first stage is to become aware of the Shadow and to be aware of any inappropriate or unwarranted emotional outbursts that seem out of proportion to their source. The Shadow comes from the unconscious and is resolved in the unconscious. The barometer is your feelings.

Stage Two: We’re Surrounded!

In talking about this stage, my father used to say, “We’ve been infiltrated!” You’ve seen the enemy and now the enemy is within a close proximity. It’s no longer just out there in the world. It’s close now. It’s within our family. It’s within our business or workplace. It’s at church or the dentist. It’s moving in, circling closer and closer — and it’s very uncomfortable when it’s close.

A classic example of this is McCarthyism in the 1950’s when Senator Joseph McCarthy led the“Red Scare”campaign against communism. During this time, the US was fighting communism around the world and Americans were genuinely afraid of a potential communist take-over. In early 1950, McCarthy made a speech saying that the communists had already infiltrated not only the country, but our government itself. He claimed to have a specific list of traitors and began a vicious four-year witch hunt to unearth more“enemies of the people.” McCarthy whipped the entire country up into “seeing”communism – the most prominent projection of the Shadow to the American public at that time — on every corner.

Has that ever happened to you? You decide to become vegan and suddenly everyone close to you is slamming down quarter pounders. You get concerned about child abuse and suddenly you can’t go anywhere without seeing some adult slap a child. The whole world seems to conspire to stick that Shadow right in your face! We can get through this phase best by remembering that what we see and react against is a projection of the Shadow, no matter how uncomfortable that feels to admit.

In both of these stages, if you have a certain comfort level with basic “perception is projection,” you’ll have an easier time of it. Perception is projection basically says that what you see out there is never an objective reality. It is always filtered and colored by your internal beliefs.

Stay tuned next time when we’ll cover the next three stages: It’s Me, Mea Culpa, and finally, It’s All Okay.

Until then, have fun recognizing your Shadow!

Mahalo,

Dr. Matt

 

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Wired for Perfect Health http://www.drmatt.com/2015/04/16/wired-for-perfect-health/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=wired-for-perfect-health http://www.drmatt.com/2015/04/16/wired-for-perfect-health/#respond Thu, 16 Apr 2015 13:45:36 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2944 Wired for Perfect Health

Aloha,

I have the deepest respect for medical doctors and their profession. But as Deepak Chopra points out:

“Modern medicine, for all its advances, knows less than 10 percent of what your body knows instinctively.

I’ve studied and taught Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Huna for many years now. Though different in their approach, both disciplines believe that our unconscious minds (which run the body and all of its functions) holds two blueprints: one of our body in perfect health and the other of our body in its current state.

In my newest article for Psychology Today “Wired for Perfect Health” I talk about what it takes to tap into your blueprint for perfect health.

Our unconscious minds know exactly what we need to be healthy.

So why aren’t we?

Personally, I think it’s because we ignore our bodies’ natural desire for health and our actions don’t support its intrinsic ability to heal itself and maintain physical health.

To a very great degree, our physical health is up to us, not external forces.

For more from my Psychology Today article, follow this link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/focus-forgiveness/201504/wired-perfect-health

Mahalo,
Dr Matt

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“Busting the Myths about Weight Loss” TeleSummit http://www.drmatt.com/2015/04/07/myths-about-weight-loss/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=myths-about-weight-loss http://www.drmatt.com/2015/04/07/myths-about-weight-loss/#respond Tue, 07 Apr 2015 13:45:48 +0000 http://www.drmatt.com/?p=2940 BUST the MYTHS about Weight Loss

Isn’t It Time to BUST the MYTHS about Weight Loss?

My friends and colleagues Drs. Joy and Roy Martina believe the diet industry has brainwashed us into believing many harmful untruths about weight loss – and ourselves. That is why they’ve assembled a panel of world-class holistic health and wellness experts for an informative and inspirational FREE 3-day online event on April 14th – 16th.

I am delighted to say that Joy and Roy have asked me to be on the panel. Here are all the details on how to attend:
To register for this FREE event, go to:
http://sleepyourfataway.com/book-launch/pages/telesummit.php

If you cannot attend live, register anyway because the audio replay WILL be available for a limited time.

Over these three days, our expert panel, representing a variety of holistic perspectives, will explore what DOES and DOESN’T work when it comes to weight loss. They’ll look at food addictions and the connection between mind and weight loss. They’ll also discuss the many ways attaining your healthiest weight can improve your life.

Guest panelists include:

  • DRs. JOY and ROY MARTINA – #1 Holistic Thought Leaders, co-authors of Sleep Your Fat Away
  • LYNN SERAFINN (co-host) – Author, marketing strategist for authors & ethical entrepreneurs
  • DR. ELLEN W. CUTLER – Chiropractor, author, natural healing expert, creator of BioSET
  • LORI SHEMEK, PhD – Author, international leader in health and weight loss
  • DOREEN POLIZZI – Health, wellness and lifestyle coach
  • DR. DONI WILSON, N.D. – Doctor of Naturopathic Medicine, nutritionist, midwife, bestselling author
  • AMBER ROMANIUK – Holistic nutritionist, speaker, healthy eating expert
  • JOEY KLEIN – Personal development expert, martial arts champion, author of The Inner Matrix
  • MATTHEW B. JAMES, PH.D, Doctor of Psychology, NLP master trainer, author The Foundation of Huna
  • ERAM SAEED – Producer of “From Heartache to Joy”; founder of Journey to Joy Foundation
  • MAL DUANE – Life recovery coach; transformational guide for women, bestselling author of Alpha Chick
  • ADAM HILL – Triathlete; Ironman triathlon All-World Athlete

This special telesummit is being held to celebrate the launch of Joy and Roy’s brand new book Sleep Your Fat Away: Train Your Brain to Lose Weight Effortlessly, which is coming to Amazon on Tuesday April 21st, 2015. On the telesummit, you’ll find out more about the book and how you can get a collection of free bonus gifts when you buy the book on the day of the launch.

To register for this FREE event, go to:
http://sleepyourfataway.com/book-launch/pages/telesummit.php

TWITTER: #SleepYourFatAway #BookSYFA

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