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Where’s The Love? (I Need A Response!!)

Well ok, I’m not actually looking for love; I have a ton of that. What I am interested in is the difference in response to positive posts and negative posts.

Here on my blog, you all have responded when prompted. I am grateful for that. A while back, I wrote a blog asking you all to provide any positive experiences that you had at our events, and it was wonderful! Again, thank you for that!!

Positive VS Negative Responses

The interesting thing is to watch how people respond to Facebook pages. I have experienced somewhat the opposite on my own Facebook, and with a few others.

Have you noticed that negative thought-provoking posts get more attention? NOT the positive thought-provoking ones? Go ahead and take a look!!

Now I know about how our brains are wired to look for danger in the environment. And that may be a part of the reason we look for the negative. However, I also know about individuals that have gained control over that aspect.

We are what we repeatedly do. (I believe Aristotle said that.) So why do you keep repeating the response to the negative? By the way, if you don’t respond to the negative, that’s great! And I would ask you…  Are you looking at all areas? Check this throughout your life. Are there any places you do this?

The last time I was in Australia I walked into a store in Melbourne. The person behind the registered asked, “How are you doing?” I said, “Fantastic!” And he seemed shocked by the response.

He then went on to explain that most do not respond like that, and he asked me what made me so happy. I replied, “I have an amazing wife, and two wonderful children. So life is great!”

He smiled and said he is going to ask each person that walks in what makes them happy!

Starting a Positive Dialog

How about this! Let’s start a positive dialog here. You see, I am about to teach our NLP Practitioner training in San Jose. I love feedback and responses, not just from my live group, but also from my group here on drmatt.com!

Here is a question for you: What area of your life is wonderful? I know we all have the area that we want to improve on, and that usually gets the attention. However, for today, what would you like to say about your “great” area?

Please respond with a post that simply states what makes your life so amazing! Help me to get this going!!!

Mahalo,
Matt

Comments

  1. George Kirchner says:

    No matter where I go, there I am and that is great. Every day erich your life and the life of everyone you have contact with, being yourself.

  2. Amazing and wonderful, as well as all of the fabulous friends and family I have, the people I randomly meet who enrich my life everyday. I get joy from the people I meet in elevators, on the street, in the post office, I have discovered I can learn something from everyone. So if a crazy woman randomly talks to you.. that might be me :).

  3. I have a very comfortable and fun lifestyle, with lots of room to grow and create beautiful experiences and I’m very grateful for this.

  4. Dr. Matt -

    I choose to see the possibilities even when things are not going well. Because I know that what’s possible is only possible when I think and focus on what is good, the blessings I have and the opportunities that are in front of me. Constantly leading me forward. It’s a wonderful feeling.

  5. i awake each day in gratitude. i am so grateful for each day, for my beloved husband, our children and our dear families and friends. i feel blessed to do work i love in an environment that celebrates life, love, service, fun and spontaneity. happy valentine’s day! thank you for the good news prompt.

  6. After 13 years of trying to start a family, we are now blessed to be able to say we are going to be adding a new member to our family in August (due date!). The area of family is improving for me daily and the best is yet to come! I truly believe I owe a great deal to the shift that started after attending NLP trainings and really applying it. I now focus on what I want rather than negatives I don’t! Shift Happens :)

  7. Dr. Matt, I have a lot to be happy about and no it’s not my finances because that needs some help. Besides that, what I am happy about is I received something I really wanted. Someone asked me one day what would I truly love to be doing as my career, I replied own my own Furniture Consignment store! Guess what I need to be careful for what I ask for, because I got it and someone is financing me for the first 6 months. I can’t wait to get started on my dream job. I also am surrounded by an awesome group of people who are very supportive and everyday I work on myself to be the person I came here to be!!

  8. John Strauss says:

    Dr. Matt,

    The power of the specific energy behind your great trainings- and your blogs are manifold- lets talk about two of them:
    positive intention -I love that it IS OK to say how I feel about my wonderful family (try it and see for yourself!) and to marvel that we are growing a global community to learn and advance the power and effectiveness of this kind of thinking- as first priority, and through that progress, create abundance, great stuff and positive change. Now for the second part: Note the difference between the intention to do, teach, learn, advance, rinse, repeat is ahead of just “finding tools to make money”. This intention to learn, improve be positive ahead of “cashing in” adds a purity of integrity that we should all be looking for, sounding like and bathing in!
    This couldn’t possibly make sense, could it..
    Happy and Excellent Valentines Day.
    Mahalo
    John

  9. Deborah Peterson says:

    Each day is a gift. I have wonderful people in my life and the ability to minimize or cull out those that are detractors. I also have the ability to learn from a multitude of events that happen each day and that’s a blessing. My thoughts produce my outcomes and its fun to see what I’m capable of. It’s just fun!

  10. Matt, this is nothing to do with the article you wrote, but I just want to say that I was doing one of your guided meditations — a CD I bought at the NLP course. And I must say, you tend to lead me to very deep trance states. Do you think you could possibly create a past life regression CD too? (pretty please? lol) I’ll be very grateful.

  11. Dear Matt,
    When a person ask me How are You? My answer is Super. Yes Super
    Every day, I wake up, I am grateful for this new day and decide to make it Super. I learn to listen to the beauty of life and nourish myself of those marvellous moments. I love and I am loved. I have a job I love and I am blessed to help people.
    During the day, if something does not go so well, I ask myself what do I have to learn from this. And make action on it immediately or as soon as possible to resolve any issue.
    My patient and my perseverance in improving my health issues taught me to believe I was able to succeed in getting better. I am much healthier, happier than I was before,
    I am grateful for the present moment and I go to sleep with all the joy that happened in my day.
    I’m so glad you are part of my life, your trainings, CD,DVD,videos and writing (blogs) are making me grow more and more each time in many areas. See You soon.

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